AIBU to feel so insanely happy with my life?

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I've just driven back from tesco to buy some fresh morning rolls. Approaching my house I passed the usual massive oak tree which is displaying autumn colours and I felt tears well up in my eyes.
I live in a lovely home, no money worries, great family.
It's not perfect but it's way more than good enough.

I think I feel it keener because my life has not always been like this.

i think its lovely you have shared your happiness OP. I do believe its catching!

My life is pretty sad at the minute and stressful beyond belief for a myriad of serious reasons. BUT .........
I'm upright
Kids that are happy and healthy
Loving siblings and parents
Everything in my body works as it should. When it should
Loyal and supportive friends who have walked with me, yes i have lost others but they chose a different path.

So overall, i'm happy but kinda flat at the same time. Maybe thats acceptance finally kicking in!

Lovely post OP. Nice to read such a positive message. You've brought happiness to lots of mumsnetters this morning too, you sound like a lovely person. Glad that you've got to a happy point in your life

Having a bit of a pants day but I'm so grateful to be back with the love of my life after 20 years, moving in with him in around 4 weeks. My healthy children. Starting a great new job tomorrow.

The philosopher John Locke said "Men always forget that human happiness is a disposition of mind, not a condition of circumstances".

Obviously that doesn't mean that real suffering doesn't make you unhappy, but happiness is a state of mind that comes from within. The rainstorm is a great example, OP. I too have a DM who can be a bit of a doom and gloom merchant, especially about the weather!

Thank you, op.

TooGood I'm sorry you're having a tough time at the moment. It can be very difficult to accept that the light at the end of the tunnel is just that, and not a train. I hope you feel better, reading this lovely thread, but please don't feel guilty about feeling bad. I think many of the posters here can relate to how you're feeling. As you can see, many of us have had really tough times and life has improved. No matter how tough it is, try to keep in mind, that this too shall pass and you may have an amazing future ahead of you. 🌸🌺💐🌻

Forgot to add my blessings. Health, wonderful dh and dc, extended family who all get on well and enjoy each other's company (this seems quite rare!), live in a nice house in a beautiful location with views over the bay and fells beyond.

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I love this thread! I am one of those really annoying positive people who sees the joy in everything. I even have a (don't laugh) gratitude journal where I try to write things I'm grateful for a few times a week.

We are so fortunate compared to so many and I never take my happy life for ranted.

I’m so glad to read this, I see and hear so much negativity all the time that I’d started to feel guilty for being happy! I feel like this a lot, I am just so #blessed I’m tongue in cheek but it is true. I have a beautiful home, a wonderful husband, 3 beautiful children. I’m extremely fortunate to be able to stay at home with my youngest DC, DH has a fulfilling job that makes him happy. We have food, warmth, clothes, cars and safety. We are such a happy family, we don’t argue, the DC aren’t at any awkward or challenging ages —yet—

I remind my children how lucky we are frequently, I think it’s important for them to see how fortunate they really are too! They’re certainly aware of food banks, children in need/comic relief, homelessness and so forth and we do what we can age appropriately for them to help people in need. Keeps you all grounded!

As I get older (late 40s) I find myself taking pleasure in simple things - the change of seasons, a freshly changed bed, listening to the rain, snuggles with dcat.
Have had a horrific year with my dds who went missing numerous times, assaulted me, called me every name under the sun, stole from me and came within a whisker of being permanently excluded from school. They came very close to going back into care (they're adopted) several times but things have been much better over the last few weeks and I'm so thankful. It's not perfect but we're being affectionate again, having a laugh, enjoying being together, and I feel like we're back from the brink.

Good on you OP .

Mine:
Two week old DD is healthy, and I want to shout from the rooftops about the care we received at my local (quite maligned) hospital.

She's currently asleep on her dad, so I've been able to shower and eat a hot breakfast .

We've finished a renovation that seemed never-ending, and I'm starting to like where we live.

I feel connected to my neighbours/community in a way that I never have before.

I have friends and some family (mine and DH's) who think about and care about us.

DH is currently driving me nuts, but I know that he cares for me and is doing his best.

Papergirl I hope things continue to improve for you all.

Papergirl - you are wonderful!

I'm the same OP. Not always had the easiest life, grew up very poor, but now I have what many people would think was just ordinary, but I am happy every day. I have a car and and own my home, plus a lovely husband and baby. It's more then I ever hoped for.

I think early autumn does this to us. The bright blue skies and dazzling colours in nature are almost visceral. Life is good, but even when it isn't the glorious changing seasons remind us that everything can and will change.

Good to read! You deserve your contentment.

I keep a gratitude journal but I also 'allow' myself to acknowledge that it's not always easy.

Tameagobairanois - that's the thing. Life is not perfect.

And when we start to focus on the positive, truly magical things happen.

Thanks, Teal and Me but, Me, I'm not wonderful. I've made mistakes and still do, but onwards and upwards...

Lovely thread. Have a beautiful day everyone x

I've made mistakes and still do

But that's just being human. Accept and forgive ourselves.
I have made plenty mistakes, and I will make more. I try to make sure my heart is in a good place, but I can't guarantee I always get it right.

A quick dust off and march on.

What a beautiful thread
I'm out for lunch later , a few years ago I couldn't even dream about going out for lunch
I am overly excited 😀

See also Daily Mash satirical headline 'Man in new relationship pretends to be really excited about autumn leaves' :)

I love this thread. It’s so easy to forget the blessings in life, especially when something is going on that feels hard or overwhelming. But those blessings are still there.

I have the most wonderful DH, the kind of love that I never ever thought I’d get to experience, and on top of that he is incredibly kind, generous, sweet and funny. I literally couldn’t ask for more from a marriage. After a painful miscarriage last year I’m 22 weeks pregnant and starting to feel kicks from our little girl, which is just wonderful. I have loving and generous parents and the best in-laws one could ever ask for. We both work in jobs that are pretty stress-free with a great work/life balance, something we moved from London to find. Although we live far from our close friends, the time we do get to spend with them is such precious quality time. We’re about to buy a lovely house by the sea, nicer than I ever imagined we’d be able to afford, and while I miss London every day I know our child(ren) will have a better life here than they would have done there, so it’s worth it.

And right now I’m still in bed (enjoying those pre-baby lie ins while we can!) while my husband makes us coffee (with cream!) and crumpets which we’ll have listening to the radio and chatting about our plans for the day. And if you’d asked me to describe my dream Sunday morning when I was a girl daydreaming about my future, that’s pretty much what I would have said. So that’s kind of amazing.

I love my life. I love fresh air, trees, animals and my little cosy home. I love laughing with DH and the kids.

It's not perfect, but it's mine and I am thankful every day.

Papergirl- I've just been on an attachment course based on Theraplay, called UinMind. I found it really helpful, and mine are now 17 & 18.