To want to be seduced?

[LadyWire]

I have a much higher sex drive than DP. I would like sex 3 or 4 times a week, he would happily go weeks without it. It does get frustrating when I'm constantly turned down but I would never force the issue with him and tbh a lot of the time I wait for him to instigate things now.

My problem is that when he does want sex he just takes it for granted that we will have it because he knows I will very rarely turn him down - I'm normally gagging for it! Eg this morning we were having a cuddle in bed and he got my hand and put it in his pants. I did want sex (I always want sex...), but I just feel sometimes that I'd like to be wooed. I suppose I feel like I'm taken for granted.

AIBU when I'm the one that wants it anyway? I have said in a jokey way that I'd like a bit of woo and he's just laughed and kissed me.

Yes I can see how you might feel a bit taken for granted, in that way. I think you need to spell it out to him and let him know how you would like to be seduced, as he may be a bit lazy. Did he make an effort to in the beginning?

Engineer a discussion about fantasies, but you go first and spell out what you would like

Yes I suppose he did, and he always makes an effort during iyswim, I just feel like he clicks his fingers and I'm available. Part of me wants to say no until he tries a bit harder but it's just not in me to play games.