In not wanting him to stop out all afternoon in the pub.

[Radley]

DH went out saturday with his mate, got so drunk he fell over, cut himself etc, and then woke me at 3.20am to let him in as he couldn't find the keyhole

He went into town to get a card for the kids grandad on tues, ended up having 4 pints whilst his sister walked round town with the girls

Went out weds and came in at 8pm a little worse for wear and wouldn't shut up when I was trying to watching something, and he has now announced that he is going out tomorrow to play in a pool match, he says he needs a couple of games before the match and then play the match.

When I said to him I hoped he wasn't planning on staying out all afternoon he replied 'well I'm so sorry for having a social life'.

I am so bloody angry, i've not been out for AGES, i went out about 3 weeks ago to a friends house for a few hours and thats it, yes, i did get to bed about 4am, but I wasn't even tipsy, when he woke me up at 3.20 he said he wouldn't apologise because I did the same the other week , difference being, he woke me cos he was drunk and couldn't talk and I woke him accidentally getting into bed.

Is it so wrong to want him to spend time with me and the kids?

What a plank. I don't think you're being unreasonable

it sounds like your DH needs to grow up and accept his responsibilities. I am not against parents having their own lives, heaven knows we'd love ours back, but he has children who would like a better role model i dare say. If my partner decided he prefered his mates company to mine or our children then i would tell him to go and live with his mates. FFS - so angry on behalf of you and your children. There are really still men that behave that way? And what about all that money he is wasting in the pub? he must have a bloody good job if he can afford that - that would pay for a lovely day out for the children. GRRRR

He is still sulking.

He is now complaining because I have told him that he can put lyclear on the kids for a change, he is complaining because he is 'no good with hair' ffs he only has to rub the stuff in their hair not create a fuffin masterpiece.

I don't know how you can stand that behaviour from the father of your children. How old is he? It sounds like he needs some sort of ultimatum.

bad memories for me this thread

He has just gone out, I don't feel well, having a bad day, got alot of stuff going on at the minute and he is lording it in the pub

mine used to do that

i'm so sorry

Your DH is being unreasonable, I can only offer sympathy - hope you DH comes to his senses soon!

We have friends who are going through this and keep seperating and getting back togoether to try again. Currently apart.

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We nearly split up just over a year ago, sometimes I wonder if it's a mid life crisis, or whether i'm a mug.

I am also starting to thing maybe the age gap is coming into play now (i'm 12 years younger)

you need to stand up for yourself, i could almost understand this if it was a younger man trying to hang on to his freedom but he is being a bully by behaving this way. I'm a bit down on men at the moment but thats because DP is being a sulky arse because i dont like his ideas for the garden, but hes at home with his family, where he should be. Simply tell him you are not going to tolerate it anymore and do not let him dismiss you, you are entitled to a life too.

Radley, my dp gets like this periodically and I practically have to play games to get through to him!! Basically, when he starts doing this kind of thing and won't listen to my point of view on it I just start booking loads of things for myself....you know, a weekly exercise class, maybe an eveing haircut, a cinema trip with friends, even just going to friends for a cup of tea, etc, but ALL IN THE EVENING, and all marked on our diary so that there is no arguement about him knowing. He tends to get the message quite quickly this way.......
Good luck!!