Homework at weekend - AIBU?

[Mumkat37]

Hi all,
hope I can get your opinion on this as I just had a massive row with DH over when DD should do her homework!?
He doesn't get involved to oversee that her homework gets done but he is of the option she should NOT do any homework at the weekends and just relax!!! ( DD & Myself often get edgy with each other over homework and it can upset the family piece)

I should probably point out DD never had very much home work until recently when she started year 6. (she never had a tutor but I had her signed up to an online math program)
DD gets her school homework on Fridays and it needs to be done and back in school the following Thursday morning.

This means she get her homework when the Weekend begins. If nothing is done Fri/sat/sun - then we have a massive rush to get things done on mon/tue/wed after school when she is tired and I really have a battle on my hands.

AIBU to think it would be a good idea to get majority out of the way using a bit of time when DD is relaxed Sat/Sun am??? Then she'd have more time relaxing Mon/Tues/Wed after school when she's tired??
BTW we are talking around 3 hrs homework a week - Appreciate your thoughts.
Thanks

Thank you everyone... very helpful and reassuring comments... keep them coming, please!

Yes - DH likes to have nice relaxing weekends -well observed RB68!! (BTW - DD doesn't get edgy because she want's to do HW earlier- in fact she couldn't care less - if it was down to HER it was ALL last minute!!) Hence me hovering....arghh

Try and get her to do as much as possible on Friday night, then just finish off on Saturday morning, then rest of weekend off?
Even if she only manages an hour on Friday, then there's less on Saturday?

"Creative task"? What a load of crap.

I'd be tempted to knock out a quick sketch of something for her (which would take most adults about 60 seconds) and get her to write on the bottom of it. I don't think art should be imposed for homework.

In which case, it would take only one hour or so. Get a timer and encourage her to work in a quick timely manner, on Saturday morning. Then enjoy your weekend.

( I am one of those people who is completely fine with lying to teachers if I think they are asking my kid to do something dumb).

We set the rules very early on that homework was done on the day it was set. That way it never built up and most of the time they had the weekends free. This is the one thing that actually worked all the way through and they are usually ahead of everyone else with Uni/College work now. They were also the only ones not doing their holiday projects the day before school started again.

We have same hw pattern. I find t so.much easier to get it done at weekend. Do bulk Saturday and Sunday morning which means dh helps too. Then just spellings and reading on the nights during the wk.

Means we aren't tying to squeeze everything in when I get home from work while doing tea before we head off to swimming/cubs etc

Is it by any chance you who will be supervising her on the weekdays when she'd be doing this, not him?

Sundays tended to be homework day for us, especially Sunday afternoon. The online tasks could be knocked out quite quickly Friday night, and the rest on Sunday. Once ds was at secondary, the rule was prep every night, except Friday, which was done on Sunday afternoon. He got home, had something to eat drink, half an hour to wind down, then prep from 1700-1900. It worked for us, and made sure things got done on time.

I don't think it's too much - 2.5 hours or so per week is about 20 minutes a day ... and for a Yr 6 child that should be more than doable, especially since next year she'll be in secondary and the homework will increase!

Perhaps, although it seems like you could get it all knocked out on a weekend morning so you don't have to do it during the week it would actually be better to try and split the tasks? That way your DD doesn't feel like she has hours of work in her weekend and she can start to help take control of her work load and get organised. When she comes home on Friday you make a list of the tasks she has to do for homework and then break the tasks down so she doesn't feel overwhelmed by the amount of work she has to sit down and do in one go.

So maybe she does the 15 minutes English online task while you make dinner on Friday night then later in the evening you could plan the creative task together to try and expedite the process (an hour seems a long time for a drawing/labelling activity) . Then Saturday morning she can actually do the creative task (which should take a lot less than an hour if you've done all the prep work the night before) while you do some jobs around the house etc and maybe the comprehension. That then just leaves the maths and if you want her to do extra work, rather than doing 1.5 hours in one go, maybe you need to break it down into doing the main task and then the other hour over the course of a few days - maybe every day while you make dinner she does 15 minutes on the maths program?

Homework has ruined my weekend (and now half my evenings too) ever since ds1 started getting it. I cannot wait until he finishes education and the ridiculous battles can end.
Ds2 likes homework, thank goodness. If he was a screaming refused like ds1 I'd be back on meds by now.

Sunday mornings were homework time for me when I was about that age.

But I also had abour an hour of homework 4 week nights as well to do. Some of that was prettt pointless.