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To think my boss should announce my new position as manager??!!

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Herewegoharry · 22/09/2017 21:28

Have just been promoted and all has been signed and sealed.

Went for what I thought was going to be a meeting with all the staff regarding the new structure and how we move forward.

My balloon was well and truly burst when my now stepping up to Manager was not even mentioned once and i could tell not one person had any idea that i was now the manager. WTF!!

Why on earth wouldnt this be brought up and announced? How am i supposed to manage my staff when they have no idea that I am their manager? How would you deal with this

To be honest, I did envisage some teething problems but not this one Confused.

I seriously want to revoke my signing of the contract and go back to my old position, (which I could do). What a crappy start to what was supposed to be a wonderful new beginning.

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Gorgosparta · 23/09/2017 07:07

I havent ever seen a big public announcment made.

Usually, once everyone who has applied has been told they didnt get the job an email is sent out to the people who will be my direct reports. Then its my job to set up a team meeting with them. Either before i take over or first thing the day I start.

There would never be a meeting with all staff.

Can you work out why you feel it needed to be done publically? You dont need that to be an effective manager.

Ilovetolurk · 23/09/2017 07:09

I am another one who would not expect this to be announced publicly

Possibly over email

ForalltheSaints · 23/09/2017 07:12

Usually all team changes are announced via an email where I work. As you need to tell many people beyond an immediate team. Seems best to me.

JWrecks · 23/09/2017 08:27

I am seriously thinking of back tracking and cancelling the whole changeover

NOOOO! Don't do that!!

Have a 1:1 with your manager, though, because this kind of information really must come from as high up as possible. It's likely that it will be announced later, though it seems like there was the perfect opportunity already, he may have something else planned.

Do have a chat with your manager, or even send him an email asking that he mention it to the team as you feel this info is best coming from him and not you. Ask him to just send a quick email to the distro or something, but that he be the one to say it.

If you're not comfortable with asking outright like that, arrange a meeting where you ask him for his advice! Flatter him a bit and ask if he's got any tips for you, anything he expects from you, etc., and then throw in the announcement after that.

You will need to get used to going to him with this kind of thing. It gets easier over time, but when I was first promoted to manager, I never thought I was suited for it, but my manager could see that I was wrong about myself and just lacked confidence. I felt like the most frightened, timid person on earth and although I was good at organising and managing time, the rest was scary. I was extremely conflict averse to the point it felt like a phobia, and the first time I had to tell somebody off, I was sick in the loo after. I still get the shakes when I have to discipline somebody for something really bad, but it gets easier every single day and those really hard parts are few and far between.

My manager was right, and I'm comfortable saying I'm a damn good manager today. I'm certain your manager is right about you, too, or he would not have put you in that position.

Please don't even think about backing out over this one tiny thing! Just take it into your own hands and tell him to do it!

And congratulations! You'll be fabulous, I'm sure of it!

stopfuckingshoutingatme · 23/09/2017 08:33

You need to be toughen up ! You are a
Manager now . Just ask him when he plans to announce it calmly and don't flounce !

honeylulu · 23/09/2017 08:47

I would give him a bit of leeway to correct the position without feeling like I was having a go.
Something like "I know the announcement of my new role isn't public knowledge yet, as it wasn't mentioned at the meeting but can you please let me knew when you will be confirming it to the team?"

Senior staff can be thoughtless so and sos. When I got promoted (law firm so there are actually only two promotion levels that are open to most people) I was told my interview with the managing partners had gone well ... was waiting for final verdict. Had a day off on Friday, came in Monday to a volley of congratulations emails. The announcement had gone out as a round robin on Friday (which obviously I hadn't seen). No one had actually told me I'd got it!

Poor you. You have achieved something fabulous and this must have taken the shine off a bit. Speak to manager. You'll feel so much better once it's tackled.

coddiwomple · 23/09/2017 08:47

Congrats OP. If you are now the manager, why don't you organise the meeting yourself?

It would have been a bit better if the team has been informed by email, or in person, not necessarily with you, but there's no need for a big announcement.

If you are in charge of the team, you need to show it from now. If you just stay quietly at your desk without telling anyone, it's a bit weird. You have been chosen because you can manage the team, you accepted to do it, so good luck!

IonaMumsnet · 23/09/2017 09:52

Hi OP. Just popping by to let you know we've sorted out the name change fail for you.

blueshoes · 23/09/2017 12:30

Part of the role of a manager is managing your team (downwards) and managing the senior management (upwards) for your team. This is just the start of your going to your manager for things and making things happen, instead of just doing things. Not sure about your organisation but in mine, you will have to fight for resources, promotions for your people, fend off encroachments from other teams and deal with difficult subordinates and various HR issues. You cannot just sit back and expect everyone else to do their job (including your manager) properly.

You will get used to it but it is a shift in mindset if this is your first managerial role.

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