Posting on here for traffic- got a 5 week dd & separated from her father before she was born, he told me during pregnancy he wanted to be involved in her life & made out he was excited & couldn't wait for her to come & wanted to be there for everything, we got along OK then...
6 weeks before she born his whole attitude changed..
Then my mother let him know she was born & we never heard from him,
His sister got in touch with me & asked to see baby, over time Hus two sisters & mam came & seen her & assured me just cause he hasn't seen baby they want to be apart of little ones life & have visited more or less on a weekly basis since, & I'm happy with it,
Here's my issue- just before she was born her father made comments to people he didn't know if baby was his, told his family he was busy, had a lot on etc is why he hasn't been to see baby yet, he lives down st from us lol, it is nearly six weeks since she been born & he hasn't so much as asked if she's a healthy baby or her name, been telling his family he don't think I'll let him see her etc, i'm under no illusion to his excuses its clear to me he isn't interested in being there for child as he's said & done a lot but his family seem to believe he will be there for her lol,
So last visit off sister they asked had I heard off him I said no & repeated my mam let him know she born & haven't heard off him since, sister read a text he had sent her to me it sorta went as, been really busy been working away (only mon-fri home on weekends & people have to old me at weekends he's doing things like cinema, beach & drinking etc, his sis knows all this too) & I'll see her when im ready to see her,
Now as her mother I know I just gotta accept this if he does just turn up one day asking to see her but it made me so angry, so far I've been whatever attitude & just got it into my head I'm raising her alone but the thought he thinks that's OK and acceptable to do to your newborn baby, now I know he could just be saying this to get his sister off his back about seeing baby & has no intention of seeing her, but way he is (all about him & his feelings) i really think now that's what he's going to do, wish I could just tell him to piss off the amount of lies & excuses he's given different people & way he's treated our daughter but just cause he's her father I gotta let him see her,
How would you be about this/him just turning up to see her when HE'S ready? -
Be clear that you won't let him repeat treating her like he has etc & try & get along again
Go over everyone of the things he's done & said & ask him to explain himself
Or thirdly just let him see her without saying any bloody thing as he seems to love getting a reaction from me & just let him be a shit dad to her & not try & get him to see what he's doing to her? X