To ask a doctor to do this?

[CottonEyedJoe]

I have a large lump on my neck. I'm really self conscious about it. My doctor said I'd have to go private to have it removed - costs at least £200. Im a young single working student mum living in an expensive area, and can't afford this.

There is a doctor at the medical centre I work at that runs a minor ops clinic and can remove it- often does. I know it's possible to be added as a temp patient so he could do it for me.

But is it really cheeky to ask him? I've only worked there a few months. My colleagues say to do it, but I can't pluck up the courage so am leaving it in the hands of the AIBU vipers

OP, that is not a gross photograph, at all.
You should ask, remaining silent, will get you nowhere.
There will be one answer, yes, or no !
We have to look out for ourselves, this is a good opportunity, please take it.

why wouldn't you just ask yourself instead of getting someone else to ask? How childish

No, not childish. Just not rude. You're putting someone in an awkward position at their place of employment.

This gives him an out if he's not comfortable.

I'll do it for you for the small fee of a bottle of wine.

I'm not a doctor but I can sew buttons on.

I asked my deputy manager and she said definitely ask and she went to say she'd say something and then changed her mind halfway through the sentence and told me a good time to ask. Don't want to put her in an awkward situation either! Doctors are definitely viewed as a little godlike at my surgery, and not to be badgered without good reason.m, though they are all very lovely - and he's definitely one of the least scary! But I definitely don't want to make him feel uncomfortable. Maybe I will try something like the below to give him an out.

Hope you get sone good ideas on here soon! Maybe
*you could simply open how you planned to - how you've had it looked at and quoted - then ask "is this a procedure you could perform?"

Then you leave it open for the doctor to say "yes, I'll do it no problem" or "yes, it'll cost XYZ" or "sorry, not really my area"*

I have also been tempted to go back to my doctors and say it hurts/ has grown - but wouldn't like to be dishonest.

Also seen a message from the doctor at my surgery about another case saying he'll refer if he wants but it'll take at least 6 months and he could do it in the next couple of weeks.

I'm pretty sure a doctor doesn't need an " out" if he's not comfortable with something.

Ask for sure. I've asked a few doctors at work over the years to remove a lump on my neck, none of them are specialists in this area but all have willingly had a go.....sadly none have been successful!

Please just ask. 'Hi, Lovely Doctor 😊 I have this thing on my neck and it really annoys me, do you think it could be removed?'

You will have a scar though, so you need to weigh up whether it's worth it or not. I have something similar on my eye, I hate it, but I've decided to leave it because the scar would be as bad (and it's on my eye). OTOH I had something removed that was on my face because it kept bleeding and although the scar is visible, it's not as unsightly as the thing he removed. My Doctor 'had a go' first, but it came back so I was referred to a specialist.

Please just ask. 'Hi, Lovely Doctor 😊 I have this thing on my neck and it really annoys me, do you think it could be removed?'

Perfect! Thank you

Oh and yeah I know I'll be left with a scar. I definitely think it'll be better though.

Definitely ask!!

My cyst was considerably bigger than your lump OP, and my scar is virtually invisible, - doctors have to look hard to see it, far far less visible than my lump which I hated.

Ask how much he would charge as you've been quoted £200+ and can't afford that at the minute.

I'm pretty sure a doctor doesn't need an " out" if he's not comfortable with something

oh please I was unaware that doctors never suffered from social awkwardness like other people. What year do they cover that in school?

No harm in asking so long as you make it clear to her you do not expect it

I'd go with noodleninjas suggestion. Any luck he'll just say he'd do it some afternoon for a bottle of wine or whatever!

Yes where'smytaco, I'm sure there's doctors all over the place carrying out medical procedures they are too awkward to say no to

Another one who says just ask after all doctors love cutting body bits up. Look on it as doing him a favour.
And if you don’t get any joy @baffledcoconut will sew a fetching button on it for you.

Many GPs who do minor ops won't touch the neck. Too high risk.

Yes, we used to do this at work for staff and families to avoid waiting times etc. Just ask the head of your team or the practice manager.