My mum has been unwell for a few weeks and sadly died last weekend.
A neighbour a few doors down used to work with a relative so knows Mum a bit, so I wanted to tell her myself but was pretty busy with Dad and arrangements so hadn't got around to it immediately.
A couple of days after Mum died, a friend of mine was dropping off some flowers at my house, gave my son a hug as she left then got accosted by the nosy neighbour (NN) from next door.
She was so shocked when NN asked her how my mum was, that she told her that sadly she'd died (she said she just didn't think, she just blurted it out)
So NN decided that, as a public service, that she'd tell people that my mum has died on my behalf, including the nice neighbour a few doors away who I wanted to tell myself (when I could say the words without crying).
This has really upset me, I want to tell the people I want to tell and at a time that I choose.
I've avoided NN in the days since I found out but she's just caught me outside to say how sorry she was about my mum.
I cut her off and said she shouldn't have accosted my friend, and she shouldn't be gossiping about my mum having died.
AIBU?
p.s. she really is nosy, she gossips about everyone, but this has really upset me