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AIBU?

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To think getting to appointments early is rude?

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splendidisolation · 22/09/2017 08:26

Every fucking time without fail, woman arrives 15 minutes early to her physio appointment which puts me under pressure to hurry up on machine so she can get on, even though my slot has another 15 minutes to go.

Its just like....seriously, can you not listen to a few extra tunes in the car? Have a fag? Enjoy a sit in the park right next door?

I can uear in my physios voice it annoys him too because he has to stop what hes doing to answer the door. ARRRRRRGH!

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existentialmoment · 22/09/2017 10:30

"...its quite a disconcerting feeling, being watched for half of my session.

Then that is the physios fault and he should do something so that she can't see you. It's not her fault!

blackteasplease · 22/09/2017 10:35

Yeah I think the physio is at fault here.

He should have a space for the next person to wait where they are not disturbing you.

ChildofASD · 22/09/2017 10:46

in this situation, he really should have a 10 min gap between appointments
to cater for this if there is no waiting space. Have a word as it is up to him to enforce boundaries with clients.

TriJo · 22/09/2017 10:53

YABU, being late for things stresses me out and I need to be around 10-15 minutes early for most things for my own sake.

Tomorrowillbeachicken · 22/09/2017 10:55

I always arrive to everything early as I would hate to be late.

Doobigetta · 22/09/2017 10:56

It's almost impossible to arrive at exactly the right time unless you are travelling on foot, so punctual people always aim to be ten minutes early so they don't risk keeping anyone waiting. And then if we're (un)lucky with traffic, or arrive at the bus stop in time for an earlier bus, we get there with 20 minutes to spare instead of ten. What are we supposed to do, wait in the pre-waiting area? That's just silly.

RebeccatheOld · 22/09/2017 10:56

I think 15 minutes is a bit much if there's nowhere to wait, but the only thing you can do is to just carry on with your session and try not to feel worried.

She knows when her session starts so its her problem if she has to wait.

ferrier · 22/09/2017 13:48

It's up to the physio to provide somewhere to wait. If he can't do that then he shouldn't be seeing patients in his home.

AccrualIntentions · 22/09/2017 13:49

It would only be rude if she was trying to hurry you up so she could start her appointment early. Otherwise, it's your problem not hers.

PuppyMonkey · 22/09/2017 13:57

Id definitely feedback your thoughts to the physio about the set up, sounds very unprofessional.

. In fact, reminds me of when I was sending DD to piano lessons at a local teacher's home and we had the same thing, the next pupil would arrive half way through lesson and watch or, even more helpful, chat to piano teacher.

PopcornBits · 23/09/2017 10:15

Could you change your appointment time so that you don't have to see her again?

kali110 · 23/09/2017 11:17

Yabu, its not the womans problem, nor yours so much but the physios.
Ask him to close the door!
So what if he has to keep going in and out, can he not keep closing the door?
Ofcpurse you dont want to be watched, but the woman has every right to wait for her appointment.

DailyMailReadersAreThick · 23/09/2017 11:34

Like other people with anxiety in the thread, I always arrive 15-20 minutes early for appointments.

BUT when I have appointments at somebody's home (my massage therapist) I wait in the car and knock on her door bang on time. I would consider it rude to knock on her door 15 minutes early. If I went to a salon or somewhere with a waiting area, I would go in 15-20 minutes early.

ForalltheSaints · 23/09/2017 12:05

I wish people arrived early more often. Lateness is an abomination and I am sure 90% of the time avoidable.

Chocolou · 23/09/2017 12:15

I'm with you op.

I treat clients and work in a salon environment. I have one lady who always books her appointment after my lunch break and turns up 20 mins early for her appointment so I effectively have 10 min lunch break as I'm on edge that she's waiting. It bugs the hell out of me. She lives 5 min drive away!!

Yes we do have a waiting area and magazines but unless you've worked with the public it's hard to understand how annoying this can be. It's not just me either. All of my friends and clients who are in the position of taking appointments feel exactly the same.

Can you not mention to your physio that you feel a little uncomfortable?

daisypond · 23/09/2017 12:18

It depends on the setup. If there's a waiting room and a receptionist, it's fine to arrive early. If it's in someone's home and they have to interrupt your session to answer the door and then the next customer sits there watching, it's not acceptable. As someone said earlier, with private music lessons in someone's home you are specifically told not to arrive early, because it disrupts the previous person's slot or the teacher's five-minute break to catch their breath.

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