To think this is just sexist?

[Gownagain]

DH away for work for a week at the moment, no offers of help from family or friends etc.

Last month I went away from 2pm Friday until 5pm Saturday, MIL took kids over night, friends came round with tea for kids when DH got them back etc etc.

Seems like everyone assumes the kids are my job - but poor DH if he gets left alone with them then that's just unfair

(Just to add, DH is a great dad and very capable. It isn't him who i think is being sexist. And it's not that no one offers to help that irks me, just that family fell over themselves to help DH for the ONE NIGHT that he did on his own.)

YANBU at all.

Yanbu. Dh moans at me if I leave him with 'instructions' for the kids. He doesn't 'babysit' them either. If only he could now work out that dishes go INSIDE the dishwasher rather than stacked by the sink.

Yup, it's sexist. And pervasive. Men looking after children = a) Hero and b) need help (the dichotomy misses most people). Drives DH (SAHD) batty when people make comments to him. He had some woman commenting, "Ooh, you're not used to the pram obviously" when he was struggling around the corner and he responded with, "Actually, this is my 6th year as a stay at home parent."

It's irritating for men who are perfectly capable and it's irritating for women who are left holding the baby (literally) without any recognition or help.

Whenever I have female friends whose husbands are away I always offer to help or to do a spot of babysitting. Because actually, I think whichever parents is home alone could do with the break.

YANBU, this used to happen to me, and it annoyed me so much!!!

I made a few quite pointed remarks to a few people, couldn't help myself. Enjoyed watching them squirm actually.

TalkinBoutNuthin - haha it did cross my mind to make a passive aggressive joke to friends who brought dinner for my DC when DH had them on his own. Considered sending a WhatsApp saying something like "the kids are ready for their tea now!" (But I won't as they're great friends and I don't want them to feel upset - they were trying to be kind to DH!)