To want to get into my house without being lept on by teenagers/10 upwards???

[Hilllary]

I live in a terraced house, come from the country so living so close net is not something I'm used to,(we had to drive to our neighbours). Down our road there are alot of older children and teenagers, every time I come home I get mobbed by them, they hover outside my house, I'm a polite person but really want to be letf alone. I have two dd's ages 3 & 1, the eldest of them is a 15 year old girl who is constantly asking for my dd1 to come out and play, Its a busy road & I would rather my dd did not play outside as she is so young & to me its odd that a 15 year old wants to knock for a 3 year old, perhaps its me I dont know as I say I'm not accustomed to this sort of thing.

Its Easter holidays now (as you all know) and I'v already had enough but honestly dont know what to say to them, there's about 6 of them, they just dont take the hint & want to sit in my house all day every day. I made the mistake of allowing them in once which I now know was silly but I really want to be able to have the freedom of being able to come and go as I please. I'm young myself (she says trying to add up how old she actually is) What do I say to them??? They are very domineering.

Advice greatley appreciated.

That is so tough, Hillllary = don't have any actual advice I'm afraid, but will give this a good old night-time bump and hopefully someone else will come along.

(If cod's dh is about, he has an interesting way of dealing with unruly teenagers!)

hi squonky I'v herd of his way of dealing with teenagers on the plane

Thank you for you input

Do you let them in your house?

Just tell them its not convenient/dd's are napping/your going to bathe them and put them down/your cooking, blah blah blah

They've found a house they can hang around in and they're going to try and use it, its up to you to not let them.

Hi Hoolagirl, yes I let them in once & that was about 8 months ago, not since but they still keep hastling me, always trying to come in. They always get me as I'm coming in, they sit in the street. I do tell them I'm bathing babies or just going to have dinner etc, they just say oh we'l watch you or I'l come in and help you.... i just want to say F* OFF!!!

But then I have to live here so I dont want a brick through my window as I know they are nasty to various members of the street, very racist, you cant be fat you cant be this or that. Need to word it right.

Is there a handy place for them to sit near your house? Are they targetting you because it's easy?

I'm not sure if I'm easy or not, I'm not the same as local people, from a different background & have a different manner IYKWIM,

All our houses have a wall outside and they tend to sit on which ever one they choose, nobody tells them to get off.

God, I really don't know what to suggest. I was thinking that if they were sitting on a bench or something, you could ask the council to move it, but a garden wall isn't that easy to shift - assuming you would want to.

Unless you befriend one of them away from the situation and tell them that they are frightening the little ones.

yes difficult one & they are out there come rain or shine. My garden also has a side alley too and they are constantly peering through or breaking holes in my fence to peer through. My dd's just grin and ask them to come in, dd doesnt understand bless her but the 15 year old was talking to my dd1 and said "oh dont tell mummy it's our secret" That really got my goat up.

NOT unreasonable at all IMO.

dont have any helpful suggestions either though, sorry

no, I would be firm and set boundaries with them. Breaking your fence, thats way out of order.
No way would I let a 3 year old out with a 15 year old, unless I knew and trusted the 15 year old very well.

I also came from a very isolated country background, and find this sort of thing hard to deal with, but you have to be firm with them. It is your house, you have no obligation to let them in. Just say no. Havent they got homes to go to? Also, get as many as possible of your family and friends to visit you, so that they know you have support. Do you have a church network who could support you? They are more likely to pick on someone who looks alone and vulnerable, especially if they suspect that you find standing up to them difficult.

this may sound a bit siege mentality, but my experience is from a street where there were 15 year old prostitutes, and both our neighbours were drug addicts, and the kids really didnt know their a**e from their elbow.

Oh, and I would speak to them about the broken fence, and make it clear that you'll call the police next time it happens.

We had kids coming into our garden to smash up a car "we thought it was abandoned" yeah, right, in our back garden. These kids have no respect.

hilllary,
Don't live near a raf camp do you?Strange q I know.A neighbour has some kids doing this .However I wish they were that nice to my dd6yrs as they keep bullying her .The eldest is about 15 and they have yelled at her for calling her brother,thrown in groups snowballs at her making her cry as they hit her all at once.