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Galaxy s5 users, Dh predictive txt prompting Youporn?

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quicknamechange3 · 21/09/2017 12:36

Dh has issues with porn, he’s lied to me and broken a huge deal of trust in our marriage as a consequence. Right now in our relationship the deal is no porn on his part until we are in a better place, regarding lying and trust etc. I have full access to his phone and was searching YouTube but his search bar prompted youporn.com. This phone is newly used by Dh and wouldn’t have any previous history stored. He swears he has no idea how it’s there and making me feel unreasonable to even question him. So can anyone knowledgeable ie Samsung galaxy users tell me does a galaxy phone automatically prompt a porn site?Hmm

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safariboot · 24/09/2017 00:34

Yeah, Google can sync the learned words. If you can get DH's phone, go into the settings and see if he has that feature on or off. (Or just sneakily 'delete learned words' and then check again in a couple of weeks.)

WhatToDoAboutThis2017 · 24/09/2017 06:11

I just want to address some points in HappyJohn's post.

1) It is an addiction or a compulsion.

It is an addiction for you, not every man or woman out there.

Looking at it doesnt mean he doesnt love you.

True.

But it does affect intimacy and how he will behave around you. He has a little fantasy life of his own.

Again, this goes only for you. I'm the regular porn watcher in my relationship. I don't have a fantasy life of my own and it doesn't affect intimacy with DH, nor how I behave around him, at all.

2) Carrying round any phone which can access the internet is for such a man the equivalent of an alcoholic with a bottle of whisky in his pocket. Or someone giving up smoking carrying a pack of fags.

Again, this applies specifically to you. The vast majority of people who are regular porn users are not addicts.

3) Lying to you is unacceptable.

Agreed.

5) It is a tough addiction to break. Sex Addicts Anonymous works for me, modelled on AA. But it takes real commitment. Most of us take years to realise that we are addicts (IE unable to stop) and a little bit longer before going to a meeting.

Broken record, but again, you are talking about yourself. Porn addicts are actually exceptionally rare; there's only around 200,000 in the US.

The OP having issues with her DH watching porn are forcing him to do it in secret. While I don't think he should be keeping secrets from his wife, controlling how he masturbates is not acceptable and I can understand his response to that.

Oh, and OP, it's not about "cool wives/gfs". Please don't bring that up as a way to try an insult those who think differently to you, or to make yourself feel better about your insecurities.

BigFatGoalie · 24/09/2017 06:27

what not finding watching porn acceptable in a relationship does not mean the OP has insecurities.
That’s not the only reason someone can be against pornography, and it’s quite a lazy way to dismiss their view.

WhatToDoAboutThis2017 · 24/09/2017 06:28

BigFatGoalie No, it doesn't, but I mentioned that because that's the impression I'm getting from her posts.

showgirl · 24/09/2017 06:32

When I got my new Samsung phone I just connected the 2 and the new one had downloaded everything from my old phone. There is a chance that perhaps this has happened?

Trills · 24/09/2017 06:35

Well done people who have explained the difference between browser autocomplete and keyboards learning your words.

It's likely that he knows how to go into incognito mode on his browser but does not know how (or does not want) to clear all the learned typing from his keyboard.

Meaning he has typed youpon.com on his phone more than any other word beginning with "yo..."

A caveat to this is that some keyboards remember your words separately for different types of text fields. This suggestion might be specific to URL bars (vs short test long text, email address fields etc).

So if you typed "yo" into a text message field, "youporn" would not be the suggestion.

It's still a word that he has typed. Just not necessarily the word he has typed the most.

bianglala · 24/09/2017 08:37

"Cool" gf. Oh piss off.

Daydreamerbynight · 24/09/2017 08:54

"Cool gfs". Oh behave. Porn can be mutually enjoyed in a marriage. Just because it doesn't work for you, don't be snippy.

LittleBooInABox · 24/09/2017 08:59

Advice is something we ask for when we already know the newer but wish we didn't.

I'm sorry OP.

SomewhereInbetween1 · 24/09/2017 09:28

If his last phone was an android phone and he used a Google account for his email and chrome login, and has used the same account for this new phone, it is likely his searches would be copied over from his last phone.

BabsGanoush · 24/09/2017 09:34

The OP is asking for advice on text on a mobile phone, not advice on porn and her relationship.

We don't know how the porn has affected the relationship and what agreement they have come to, so best leave opinions for another thread or discussion.

prh47bridge · 24/09/2017 09:39

If his last phone was an android phone and he used a Google account for his email and chrome login, and has used the same account for this new phone, it is likely his searches would be copied over from his last phone

Not for keyboard autocomplete which is what is being shown in the image shared by the OP.

kevinmalone01 · 20/04/2021 08:11

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Lachimolala · 20/04/2021 09:03

To be fair she’s asked for help with the search issue on the phone, she’s not asked for everyone’s opinions on porn, who’s watching it and why it’s okay that he watches it. She has said repeatedly that it’s not up for discussion and wants to stick to the matter at hand, so why can’t people respect that? This isn’t a porn debate it’s about the phone.

I think I’d get snippy too if people were ignoring the problem I’d asked for help with and harping on about something else entirely.

BrumBoo · 20/04/2021 09:07

ZOMBIE THREAD

Hopefully the op has chucked his filthy, lying arse out in the last 4 years.

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