I just want to address some points in HappyJohn's post.
1) It is an addiction or a compulsion.
It is an addiction for you, not every man or woman out there.
Looking at it doesnt mean he doesnt love you.
True.
But it does affect intimacy and how he will behave around you. He has a little fantasy life of his own.
Again, this goes only for you. I'm the regular porn watcher in my relationship. I don't have a fantasy life of my own and it doesn't affect intimacy with DH, nor how I behave around him, at all.
2) Carrying round any phone which can access the internet is for such a man the equivalent of an alcoholic with a bottle of whisky in his pocket. Or someone giving up smoking carrying a pack of fags.
Again, this applies specifically to you. The vast majority of people who are regular porn users are not addicts.
3) Lying to you is unacceptable.
Agreed.
5) It is a tough addiction to break. Sex Addicts Anonymous works for me, modelled on AA. But it takes real commitment. Most of us take years to realise that we are addicts (IE unable to stop) and a little bit longer before going to a meeting.
Broken record, but again, you are talking about yourself. Porn addicts are actually exceptionally rare; there's only around 200,000 in the US.
The OP having issues with her DH watching porn are forcing him to do it in secret. While I don't think he should be keeping secrets from his wife, controlling how he masturbates is not acceptable and I can understand his response to that.
Oh, and OP, it's not about "cool wives/gfs". Please don't bring that up as a way to try an insult those who think differently to you, or to make yourself feel better about your insecurities.