To be envious but also massively irritated

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So, I rent and would like to buy but can't afford it without moving to a cheaper town. it's looking unlikely at the moment.
Best friend inherited a load of money and then met someone with a load of money and they are about to buy an 800k house for cash.
I'm very happy for them but obviously a bit envious. But I believe too that you make your own fortune so trying to make my life better.

Except I think they deliberately rub it in my face every time I see or speak to them.
All friend talks about is how stressful it is trying to find the right house. Her husband mentions every time we see them that they are cash buyers and this is their budget etc etc. Its all they talk about.
And while I am sure buying a house is stressful - I don't go on about parenting or work or any of my stuff being stressful all the time. And nor do I want to hear about their enormous amount of cash every time I see/ speak to them. (They don't have kids btw and are unlikely to now as in mid 40s)
I am envious - I'd readily admit it and I'm pleased for them but it's starting to feel rubbed in my face and I'm starting to avoid seeing them. It makes me feel a bit depressed and a bit of a failure.

Aibu to feel a bit fed up of it being rubbed in my face constantly!!

Its obviously a massive thing in their life at the moment - probably the most important thing. if they are really good friends then have a word about it. say that you want to speak about other things that they and you do that you can relate to as really you don't have much in common with this experience and feel its getting to be a bit of a one sided conversation.

if you like them you have to be blunt and tell them. if you don't tell them then you will just drift apart. if you are happy to do this then cut them sooner rather than later. wait til they get started on the decoration and other playing house stuff.

House buying does tend to take over your life when your in the midst of it. I'm sure I annoyed friends when we were going through the process. They are probably a bit in their own bubble and don't realise they're being a bit insensitive. Can you just keep changing the subject? It would be a shame to lose them as friends.

Hmm I think they are showing off a bit (well... a lot) why the need to mention several times that they are cash buyers, which to be honest is none of anyone else's business anyway.

I have a relative who is a bit like this and (although he isn't actually rich at all) still shows off about money and competes with me and it drives me mad. My dad always used to say to me 'them that's got it don't talk about it'. So they are probably making up shit, the inheritance is probably a lie and they are probably mortgaging themselves up to the eyeballs but feel like they have to keep up appearances! Just feel sorry for them that they are so insecure that they feel they have to impress you by going on about money.

They are being insensitive....but hopefully not intentionally so. If they're good friends, I'd make it clear that it's irritating you and see if they get the message.

YANBU. They are being very vulgar. Ok, so it's a big deal but if you want to discuss finances explicitly like that you either do it with family or join mumsnet or sonething. Maybe just tell them a story about a very vulgar friend of yours who keeps telling you how much she spent on her car or sonething and hope that they get the hint. Even if I had exactly the same amount of money as they do I would start to feel a bit uncomfortable in your position. I think that you're taking it really well.

Well you hardly make your own luck if you inherit it Frankly I think it's really hard to make that amount of money since so few people have it.

It would be very hard not to be envious at someone spending 800k on a house in cash.

for you.