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You're not ten and a half months pregnant!! (lighthearted)

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user1495490253 · 20/09/2017 11:39

Anyone else get just a little wound up by this?! Women who are 42 weeks calling themselves 10.5 months pregnant. Err no. You're 40 weeks from conception, 280 days, which equates to nine months and a tiny bit. I know pregnancy feels like a decade but come on.

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silkpyjamasallday · 20/09/2017 13:28

I got into an argument discussion with DP in late pregnancy as I was musing that if there are 4 weeks in every month than at 40 weeks pregnant I had in fact been pregnant for 10 months not nine, and was bemoaning the fact you're told pregnancy is nine months when it isn't and they shouldn't tell you that the torture will be over sooner than it will be. He supposedly proved me wrong but I can't remember why I was wrong Grin

I second a pp, you should just agree with whatever a 42 week pregnant lady says, doesn't matter if she's wrong.

MrsKoala · 20/09/2017 13:32

Brittbugs - i was told by the paeds/drs/MWs that only pre 36 weeks is considered prem and after that it's just called early and in the normal range of birth expectations. (i was born 4 weeks early and was never considered prem by anyone)

Firesuit · 20/09/2017 13:33

I think we should change to having 13 months in the year, each of them would be exactly four calendar weeks.

The 1st of any month would always be the first day of the week, the 28th day any month would always be the last day of the week.

The extra day (or two in leap years) left over would not count as part of any month or week, and would be the new year holiday. For most business and legal purposes it would be deemed not to exist, it would just be an anomaly that we would all ignore, while taking time off.

HidingUnderARock · 20/09/2017 13:34

Agreed, though it depends who's asking. EYFS professional, HE, etc, be precise. Someone at the bus stop making polite conversation only needs "two in October".
So you expect sleep-free mothers of toddlers to carry 2 different age formats in their heads for the benefit of various others? At least one of which they will have to mentally update every week or month. Highly likely they will also either be pregnant or have an older one too.
I know I couldn't. I think I swapped to months at or before 6 months, and years just after 2. If asked for that in weeks or months a genuine look of blank panic generally sufficed.

Also, some of us happen to know for a fact that we conceived on day 4 of period, and as others have said,
if they're 42 weeks pregnant you should feel lucky they haven't strangled you yet

Firesuit · 20/09/2017 13:36

I guess we would insert the new month between June and July, let's call it midyear. (Can't be midsummer because it isn't in the Southern hemisphere.)

Firesuit · 20/09/2017 13:48

There is historical precendent for having days that aren't part of any month. Have just googled, and Romans had ten months (at one time) and another 56 days that didn't belong to any month.

Some months have their original position in the name, for example October was the 8th month originally. So to get those all back in the right place, March has to be the first month of the year, and January, February and the 13th month have to follow the 10th month December.

confusedat23 · 20/09/2017 13:55

It comes from starting the 10th Month of pregnancy from 40 weeks onwards. People always get confused whether they are in the 10th month or are actually 10 months pregnant.

I am 35 weeks on Friday meaning I am 8 months pregnant because I am just starting the 9th month of pregnancy.

However being due on 27th October and date of LMP was 20th January. by my due date I would be just over 9 calender months pregnant when I reach term and would be just under 10 calender months if I go to 42 weeks.

Why they couldn't just be easy and make every pregnancy month 4 weeks I am not sure...

missymayhemsmum · 20/09/2017 14:12

I have heard this, but assumed it was just an expression for hugely pregant, overdue, fed up with being asked when it's due, the last month feeling as long as the first 8, etc.
Eg my colleague who is 10 and a half months gone, the size of an elephant, wide as she is tall, etc etc.

Surely no-one is so stupid as to actually think pregnancy lasts 10 and a half months in humans?

Ivy79 · 20/09/2017 16:45

@DiegoMadonna

I am always amazed during pregnancy discussions at the number of people who genuinely can't understand the concept of days/weeks/months.

As in, "9 x 4 is 36 so are pregnancies actually 10 months long?" Seriously?

I know. It's quite bizarre.

As someone said earlier in the thread, some people are most insistent that there are 4 weeks in every month. So as there are 52 weeks in the year, they think: 52 divided by 4 = 13, ergo there are 13 months in the year.

As has been said, how can people get to adulthood and actually believe a pregnancy lasts for ten to ten and a half months? Or that there are 13 months in the year? There are some really bizarre things that people think though - obvious things - that are utterly wrong.

Like I know some people who not only believe there are 13 months in the year, but also some people who actually think the world is flat, if you pull at face when the wind's blowing it will stick, if you dream you die in your sleep you will die for real, if you keep your farts in you will explode, all dogs are male and all cats are female, and if you swallow apple seeds, an apple tree will grow inside you.

So weird. Confused

It doesn't matter what the Romans used to believe, there are 12 months in the year, and there has been for 100's of years.

UterusUterusGhali · 20/09/2017 17:22

It's probably the same people who count the latent phase and insist they were in labour for days and days.

cue 200 people saying "well, actually..

SheSaidHeSaid · 20/09/2017 17:24

I've never heard this before, is it a 'thing' then?

MrsHathaway · 20/09/2017 17:30

So you expect sleep-free mothers of toddlers to carry 2 different age formats in their heads for the benefit of various others?

Fuck no. I expect them to keep the headline in their heads (though by DC3 I gave a vague wave and said "two in November") and be prepared if specifics will be necessary, eg at a medical appointment or nursery progress meeting.

Keeping precise ages in your head ("37m4d2h13min") is very pfb. Grin

Ivy79 · 20/09/2017 18:42

Sadly, it probably is the reason OP.

As has been said, maybe you could do some courses, or volunteer work.

My daughter was always doing stuff when she was at college; volunteering to teach kids to play guitar at the library, taking singing lessons, taking creative writing classes, helping the local school arrange litter picks, helping a couple of farms with the horses.

Result? Applied for 5 part time jobs in her first year of uni, and got an interview for 4 of them, and got offered 3.

My friend's son did naff all for the first year after leaving school, except sit on his bum for a year, and then send off 25 job applications in 6 months. Not one interview.

I am not saying you have been doing nothing OP, but just that you need to show that you have been doing something other than mommy stuff. (Sorry if that sounds awful - I don't mean it to; just that you need more work-type skills.)

So maybe look for some volunteer stuff and some courses. For at least half a year. Smile

Ivy79 · 20/09/2017 18:45

Shit wrong thread sorry! ^

SallyGardens · 20/09/2017 21:50

If I went by LMP, my first was an 50 week pregnancy! LMP mid-July, baby born end of June following year.

The concept of ovulation on day 80-something was completely lost on the numpty who filled in my booking form.

Saysomething88 · 20/09/2017 21:58

First day of period 3rd July. Baby born 3rd may. Was I pregnant 10 months?

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