to give up dieting

[crochetmonkey74]

I'm overweight, a serial dieter and have tried everything to great success, then put on, lost , repeat, repeat.
I just want to stop , eat regular meals, control my portions, and STOP THINKING ABOUT IT
I feel like my entire life from age 10 has been thinking about weight/ maintaining/gaining/ losing.

Anyone managed to give it up and felt better?
(I am active and in good health, and enjoy exercise so not worried about that)

I'm the same. I plan on reading binge over brain as I definitely have problems around food. Like you I'm overweight but I need to reframe my attitude.

I'm only going to wax lyrical about healthy eating and exercise, you know all of that so it's pointless me or anyone telling you what you already know. Until you take charge of your life nothing will change, only you control your calorie intake and output.

My only tip is to stop buying the stuff you are addicted to, be it cake, crisps, cheese or ice cream etc. If it's not in the house, you cannot eat it.

Good luck with whatever you decide.

Darcy, that's it, I am actually not 'addicted' to any of the foods you say, nor do I eat too much of them.
I think it is more a case of the fact that I am always on one eating plan or another, i am good at sticking to it, and have results, and like exercise etc.
I'm not uncontrolled around food at all- I was more making the point that I want to stop having so much headspace devoted to it. I am actually, firmly in charge of my life and eating (following diets etc) it's that I don't want to have the continual 'ticker' in the brain that is thinking about what I have eaten/ not eaten that day if that makes sense.
Msqueen, I like your advice, I don't actually ever binge, but I think that book might have good advice about reframing attitudes etc

You need to look at your reasons for trying to lose weight to begin with. Would you benefit more from losing weight, than not?

If you are happy, healthy and realistically likely to remain so, then forget it. If not, then don't give up.

Have a look at this chat below OP. There's something in the cheesy positive psychology adage that 'what you focus on expands'. Focus on something other than the diet ticker and the 'denial' aspects of dieting and your mind might stop sabotaging your best intentions.
Be kind to yourself

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/weight_loss_chat/3019131-Weight-loss-by-being-kind-to-ourselves-title-edited-by-MNHQ?pg=6&order=

ooh thank you Gymn- I am really into all the positive thinking and the Law of Attraction stuff so this will help.

xxx

Ive found (im probably alone in this), that after years of various diets, i dont actually have a clue about whats healthy and what isnt. My mind is mixed up with brainwashing over syns, points etc etc.

I can't do the head space thing at all or stick to eating plans. I have attended Fans in Training at a local football club and it was a huge help. It ran for twelve weeks, 2 hours a week. First hour was talking through attitudes and setting little goals. I gave up sugar in my tea the first week. The second hour was exercise. We started off walking round the pitch, we did some gym, boxercise and dodgeball. It was great for adjusting my attitude. The women's class lost more inches than weight. I've lost 4kg this year and it's staying off so far.

wizzywig -that's me!

each diet is so different, yet they all work, that I get overwhelmed by just exactly WHAT to stick to. They all work- that is not the issue- I have got a naturally slim friend and she never thinks about food. She eats sometimes a lot, sometimes a little, is similarly active to me. That's what I would like to aim for, I sometimes think I can't actually tell what my appetite is anymore!

Google the Gillian Riley TED talks. It really hit home for me. The psychology of denial is massively ignored by most people imo. I think it might make sense to you.

thanks so much- will check out later
feeling v positive!

The 'No S' approach - no snacks, no sugar, no seconds except sometimes on days starting with S- might also help you put food back in its box and focus on healthier thoughts. There's a no s thread on weight loss chat too.
Good luck