To work away 2 nights/week with a 2 year old a two home?

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My mother called me last night to basically tell me that I'm neglecting my son and I'll regret it when he's older. I work away 2 nights a week and my two year old DS stays at home with his dad and the au pair. I only work 4 days a week so that I can have an extra day with him because I know I'm away 2 nights and we miss out on time together. I work hard but I also adore my son. We can't afford for me not to work, but more than that it fulfils me in a different way than being a mum fulfils me. AIBU to want both?

I don't think YABU at all - being fulfilled in life isn't just about being a mum, and I doubt people would bat an eyelid at a dad working away 2 nights a week. You have 3 days off a week and it's not like DS is being left with strangers. Do what works for you and your family

YANBU. Would you DM bat an eyelid if you were a man doing this?

If you, your DH and DS are ok with it that's all that matters.

That's what I tried to explain to my DM but she was having none of it, saying it breaks her heart to see my boy without his mum so much. My DH is very supportive and is happy for me to work. I tried to also explain that life is different now and parents are seen as equal. You are right, she wouldn't blink if my DH was away, but as it's me, it's different.

I am a single parent so my DD goes to her dads 3-4 nights over a 2 week period so I am away from her the same time as you. It's definitely not neglect!!