To drink wine at lunch?

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Wedding anniversary today. DH took me out for lunch and we shared a bottle of wine, he had the majority, I had two small glasses. DD, 9 weeks old, woke for a feed so I fed her (ebf and won't take a bottle so that's not an option). As I was feeding her a woman at the next table was giving me 'evils' and eventually my DH asked her what was wrong (people staring and the odd comment stopped me breast feeding DD1 so I guess he was being quite protective) and she said "I was just checking I wasn't seeing things as I can't believe she is drinking while doing that (pointing in my general direction). It's disgusting!" A little argument ensued but I just tried to hush DH while getting the bill and getting out of there before I burst in to tears.
I've read so much stuff and most says a little bit of alcohol is ok.
Wibu?

You were not being unreasonable. Happy anniversary! Let it go, she was being judgemental and rude!!

You were not being unreasonable.

A couple of glasses of wine when breastfeeding is fine, I've breastfed 2 dc and definitely had a couple of glasses here and there mine are fine!

My midwife said best time to drink wine was actually at the same time as breastfeeding

YWNBU. She is a judgy cow. Hold your head high and flick the memory of her off your shoulder!

What an awful woman. It must have been really upsetting for you but try to ignore. She should keep her opinions to herself.

I am assuming that this was a special occasion and you don't drink alcohol much at the moment. An occasional glass is fine.

I didn't bf so I'm honesty I don't know if it's bad. 9 weeks is pretty teeny so I would probably be surprised if I saw it. I wouldn't be rude to you or say anything. One glass I probably would think you were celebrating, two I'd find more surprising.

I'm currently pregnant and went to an NHS breastfeeding workshop recently. We were told that for alcohol to have any impact on your baby you'd have to be so drunk you were comatose. The real risk isn't in feeding a baby, it's being drunk in charge of a baby - which you obviously weren't.
Ignore the judgey cow!

She was being a twat op.

Couple of small glasses of wine whilst BF is totally fine.

Why is it some people feel the need to be nasty judgement fuckers? Just why? I don't get it

Happy anniversary op Try not to let it spoil your day.

I didn't breastfeed so bit entirely sure, but in the past didn't the guidelines say you shouldn't drink while bf? I know now they say it's fine, but maybe the lady didn't realise and genuinely thought you were doing something that could harm your baby? A bit like when you someone who's pregnant smoking, you automatically think 'how could they?'

Sorry you were upset, but maybe she really had your baby's best interests at heart.

Hope you're feeling better now and enjoy the rest of your day x

Nice, I'm so glad the NHS are reassuring people about this. The level of alcohol in breast milk is about the same as in your blood, i.e. less than 1 percent! YANBU, OP.

Mo it was really good actually. The course leader said that their scaremongering in the past had been really damaging and stopped people breastfeeding purely because they thought they couldn't drink, and there was absolutely no reason to worry about that as you have enough to stress over with a newborn was really reassuring!

When I was breastfeeding the advice was not to drink.my sil visited the other week and I phone my mil to say to bring her somethibg nice and non-alcoholic.imagine my surprise when she rocked up with some cider! As she put it, one glass of cider is like a shot in a swimming pool. Funny how advice changes so speedily.my youngest is only five .if put it straight out of your mind!

Totally fine OP & happy anniversary! We had DS1 in France & a couple of glasses of wine were recommended to help 'relax' you when bf'ing (advice I happily took on board with no ill effects whatsoever). Also pp who posted info about not bf'ing unless drunk was spot on. Ignore Mrs Judgey and illinformed pants & enjoy your day.

Oh thank you so much for the nice replies! Was worried about posting here but knew I'd get honest replies. I burst in to tears the second we stepped outside and I've been upset all afternoon. Stupid, horrid woman. I won't let her spoil the rest of my evening.