AIBU to feel so upset?

[newmammyof2]

Bit of a lengthy one sorry!

I have 3 older sisters with families of their own, the next sister up from me is 10 years older so there's a big age gap and they're all close in age. We're all very close to one another.

The middle sister always tells me how proud she is of me and that I'm one of the best mums she knows, but that's not how she treats me. I always get a knot in my stomach when she comes as I always feel she's judging me. She'll make little comments like is that how you do that or I've never seen it done that way before or have you tried doing X instead of Y
This on its own wouldn't bother me too much but over the last two years since I had my first she's out and out commented of things I do with my boys, for example

DS 1 had tommee tippee perfect prep, after watching me make the bottle and get halfway through feeding him the bottle made with it she just looked and said "I wouldn't like the idea of that I wouldn't trust the water"
DS1 also had one of the finger food holders with the net on, as he was enjoying sucking a banana on it she looked digested and said it looked germy

For DS2 I use a wrap around sling as it's much easier to get done around the house when dealing with the two boys. Her and another sis just been to visit and other sis asked if I liked it, they'd never used anything like that, I answered I love it I think it's nice to use to feel close to DS2. Middle sis said I wouldn't like it I'd think it was unsafe - what if the baby fell out.

Also DS2 had his first needles today and it's knocked him for six. She came and took him right out of my arms and said I'd take him out of the baby grow if I were you and just put a cotton bodysuit on him, I answered he's happier when he's snuggled into me I'll leave him for now. I went upstairs heard her and other sis whispering and by the time I'd come down she'd got a bodysuit from my ironing pile and changed him into it.

I know people will probably say to mention all of this to her but tbh I respect her too much to make a big deal out of it but after they left I felt like crying and a rubbish mum. It brought to mind the other things she commented on and just upset me.

Just want to know AIBU for being upset or should I just give myself a shake xx

She's a bitch.
She doesn't think your a great mum she puts you down every chance she gets.

Nasty nasty woman.
You have 3 choices.

1. Confront but be prepared to have her say it's all in your mind.
2. Ignore
3. Pull her up everytime she says something.

I do think she'd say that's not how she meant it and that I'd taken things the wrong way. I was starting to think I was overthinking what she was saying but it still got to me.

Um yabu to iron baby clothes

I expect it's just a case of her being suspicious of new fangled things. My kids are adults now, so I have no idea what those Tommi Tippi and finger food holders are, and I might also have said something similar, but totally not in a way that implies you're a bad mother, just that they're different from what was around in my day and I might think they're a bit pointless. (I'm going to google them now!)

It's the same as when I had mine, and my mum suggested things for the babies that the current advice said not to do, like she said to lay the baby on it's tummy, that sort of thing.

She's probably a bit behind on the latest advice and baby bits. Try not to take it personally.

Ok, I'm back! To be honest, I think that Perfect Prep seems like an unnecessary gadget! But, if you like it and find it helpful, it's totally up to you!

Couldn't find the finger food holders though, so don't know how I feel about them. I'd probably think they were unnecessary too! I used one of those plastic bibs with a pouch that caught any dropped food.

But again, I don't think you should take it personally. You might even find yourself wanting to say something when your children have their own babies!