Trouble with nephew

[trevthecat]

Ds has asked me to look after her kids for a few hours after school. I have them often and with our dm being on holiday I'm having then a lot. I have my own dc aged 7 and 5 and am 35 weeks pregnant suffering prenatal anxiety and spd. My nephew is 7. He answers back, is rude, screams bloody murder, hits, when you tell him off he just smirks. I have all 4 right now and he is becoming increasingly difficult to control. Aibu to tell ds I can't look after him anymore? I feel bad as she is working and her dh also is at work but I literally dread having him and so does my dh.

You need to talk to your sister about this right now. You must put your wellbeing first. I'm shocked you're watching her children with everything you're dealing with and I think your sister is being selfish and unreasonable to expect you to watch after her kids given your current state. Tell her you can no longer watch them and do not feel guilty about it.

No sweetheart, you have enough on your plate, she's unreasonable to ask

Just say that it's too much for you and that you're sorry but can't help.

Don't feel guilty, genuinely this would be a bad idea even if nephew was well behaved.

What were she (and BIL - let's not put it all on the mother!) planning to do when you had the baby? They need a longer-term childcare plan than just you sucking up his behaviour. Does he behave like that at home/ school, or is this just for you? Any chance he hates being with lots of his cousins when he's an only child at home?

Perfectly reasonable.

I'd speak to her and explain that unless his behaviour improves radically and immediately that you can't have him.

I would be honest with her (although she probably knows it). But for today, I'd turn the TV on.

Thanks for the replies. Your all saying the same as dh! I dropped him and his sister home at 6pm with brother in law. Told him he had been a pain. My sis knows what he is like but there is no real consequence for him at home I wouldn't say I'm a strict parent but my two are often shocked by his behaviour and the way he speaks to people. I have text my sister saying I can't have him again whilst he is behaving like that. It will probably cause an argument but right now I don't care! Dh is backing me the whole way and that's all I need! As for her childcare arrangements she uses my mum most of the time (she is nearly 60, a nurse, works nights) and a family friend has her youngest who is only 2yrs old. She doesn't want the cost of childcare and has been using this system since her first 9 years ago! I have always used nursery/after school club. My mil will have them occasionally but I don't like to burden her or My mum. Families ey!!

You definitely shouldn't feel that you have to cope with this, your DSis is being unreasonable to expect it. She won't be able to rely on you after your baby is born. You need to put yourself and your baby first.