I could actually kill my husband today.

[MsAdorabelleDearheartVonLipwig]

We've been having some work done on the house. We've had a quote to have a bit done inside, some decorating and a new bathroom. Got the quote, ran it past dh, all well and good, trades all booked for end of October. Am so thrilled, want it all finished by Christmas. Have got new curtains etc to order, will look lovely.

Just asked dh about us going out to find a new bathroom suite in time for the decorators and plumber coming in October and he's informed me that he did not agree to any work, it's too expensive and he needs to fit a new boiler first before we do anything inside. Apparently I'm jumping the gun as usual.

I have just exploded at him that he bloody well did agree to the work, he actually needs to listen to what I'm telling him and there's no fucking way it's not being done by Christmas. He did agree to it, I told him the price and he said ok. How is that not agreeing? Or not knowing what I'm talking about?

Will be so gutted if it doesn't go ahead. Have been looking forward to getting this shithole the house finished. Could cry. Have already had to shout at the kids just to get them in the bloody bath tonight. Am not in the mood for his fuckwittery.

If he's just recently had an inheritance and you are expecting that to pay for the home improvements I'd let it yo for now and let the dust settle.

Losing a father, even if they weren't close, is a complex emotional time and pushing hard to spend it is a tad insensitive.

I'm confused as to why this inheritance is just his money? When my dh inherited from his mum it was put into joint savings, it's OUR money, family money.

You wait till the builders start their usual tricks "make a start" then sod off for ages;!

Seems harsh for a load of strangers to be calling him a twat when he's recently lost his father, whatever their relationship was like.

So he's list his old man and you're shouting and bawling at him to spend the money and laughing about it with other people on the internet?

Classy stuff.

Well said EamonnWright. The rest of you sound like a bitter bunch. Complain to your husbands, sure, but slagging them off to a bunch of strangers? I suspect these guys would be fine without you.

pfft - just tell him you'll be getting heating engineer quotes in ASAP, in that case - might as well get all the messy jobs over and done with at the same time.

Husbands. Irritating. same can be said about wives, I expect

Blimey. And they say feminists hate men!

Well said EamonnWright. The rest of you sound like a bitter bunch. Complain to your husbands, sure, but slagging them off to a bunch of strangers? I suspect these guys would be fine without you.

Lovely isn't It?

Just get someone in to instal a new boiler.

Good lord, some of you have jumped to a mile high conclusion. He's already spent some on a family holiday, some outside work and he's been ordering himself god knows how many accessories for his numerous bikes. He's bought a shed and a new fence and god knows what else. Chill with the assumptions about who's spending what money, please.

I don't get it.

When both have us have lost relatives that have left us an inheritance it was immediately family money and we discussed and agreed what it was going to be spent on.

I can't imagine how a proper partnership can do it differently.

@dogfish1

Well said EamonnWright. The rest of you sound like a bitter bunch. Complain to your husbands, sure, but slagging them off to a bunch of strangers? I suspect these guys would be fine without you.

Bitter bunch? yawwwnnnn

And no they WOULDN'T be fine without us. They wouldn't fucking function, and they wouldn't have anyone to moan and bitch at.

And what's wrong with having a bitch anonymously on the internet?

Don't be so fucking pious!

I will moan and bitch and slag my husband off as much as I like, because NO-ONE ON HERE KNOWS WHO I AM!

Plus, it's got sod-all to do with you.

@TDHManchester

Yes,that's all men are for, kicking about and bullying. When they are not signing the right tunes they are dirt.

PMSL, SOMEone is taking anonymous message forums a bit seriously. This may not be the place for you my little poppet.

My husband does this all the time, has a conversation with me and then denies any knowledge later, drives me mad, although not as mad as his 'l can't find what's right in front of me' habit.

How come you don't have access to the money? Do you have a joint account? Is he fair in other ways, equal amount of childcare, housework etc?

By the way, he is being a dick about this but you know that.

Email is your friend OP.

Get quotes by email and then forward them on to your DH with a 'this person can come next Tuesday' message.

Ends all miscommunication.

Could he have spent more money than you think?

And no they WOULDN'T be fine without us. They wouldn't fucking function

Hmmm. Given my DW can just about manage to change a lightbulb without getting a man to do it for her, and whose approach to home improvement can be summed up as:

"I want a new patio/bathroom/hardwood floors/total redecoration."
[Stands there waiting for it to happen as if by magic]

...I call 'shite' on that one.

Start getting some quotes in for a new boiler today and get installation booked in asap.

The man said he wanted a new boiler...

BuckinhamL and of course your wife is all women. You really don't sound like you like her very much, poor lady. Does she know?

I can change a lightbulb; redecorate; put up shelves; change a fuse; rewire an appliance; put up a shed (with another person); build a wall; cut and fit floor tiles; repair furniture... I could go on.

You really don't sound like you like her very much, poor lady.

As opposed to the other posters on this thread who have expressed such complimentary views about men/their husbands? Anything to say to them?

Well in my dh's defence he is very handy. He can do electrics, plumbing, most diy, etc. I'm the cack-handed one in our family. We both loathe decorating with a passion though which is why we're getting someone in.

He would struggle to remember to do the shopping or wash the dcs school uniform though. He likes to think he's a whizz with the laundry but it tends to end up all over the house, lost and un-ironed.

toconclude, get your arse over here will you?

I don't have any DIY skills - DW has complete domain over the house, and arranges all trades etc.

I don't possess any tools that haven't come from a cracker.

The engineers I work with piss themselves when I say this.

Strangely, though, I am quite good at fixing computers (hardware and software)

I have a friend who has been married 30 years to a man who is handy but busy. He insists on doing things himself. Or, more accurately, not doing them. She still has the same grim bathroom as when they moved into their house 30 years back.

Don't be my friend. Go ahead and do the agreed work. A new boiler can be arranged in a few days, no need to delay.