To ask what's more important?

[Whatamesshaslunch]

Inspired by CBeebies to ask:
What is more important: what others think of you or what you think of yourself?

What you think about yourself. Hands down.

Absolutely what you think of yourself.

Having said that, if most people think you're an arrogant nob because you think too highly of yourself then that's not good either.

Yes if you don't like yourself it's very hard for others to like you. Compliments from others are not as confidence boosting as knowing you've done something well.

I went for the 'what others think' because you won't get far in life if everyone thinks you're an A hole. But the other one is important too.....

The other question I loved was : If we're nice to people so that they like us, why do we say thank you to a taxi driver who we'll never see again?

Good old high brow CBeebies

In your own life what you think of yourself is very important to your happiness. If you want to know what someone is like what other's think of them is more reliable in most cases.

What you think of yourself.

It ties into self respect and self esteem.

It also prevents you being manipulated into questionable behaviour because "we won't like you if you don't".

As for why you should be nice to the taxi driver? Because it's the right thing to do.

Doing the right thing and knowing that you are doing the right thing is good for your self image, self esteem, self respect (and it's nice).

"other people" are quite often wrong. and idiots

I have never been nice to people with the end game of them liking me. I'm polite to everyone because that's how I wish to be treated and it's the proper way to conduct yourself. For me, being nice ties in with what I think of myself. I can't control other people's behaviour but I can control mine. Being deliberately unkind would make me feel terrible about myself.