Life feels so mundane

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Anyone else just feel completely stuck in a rut.
I can't even explain why, I just feel so meh.
I have a good job, a caring family and good friends, my finances are alright. I just feel like there's no point to my life and I don't understand why I feel this way or what would change it

There is no point to any of our lives.

Bloody hell TDH that's depressing
I'm like this at the moment
Crap weather not helping

I have felt like this too op. Perhaps for the past three years sadly. But I don't anymore.

I feel it was a combination of two things. To very young DC. Also I was in the wrong job. Still in it but have a new opportunity.

Can you recognise what it is? Have you something to look forward to?

Two very...

What is the point of life, anyway?

Well I suppose there is no point to any of our lives. Which is why I try and do many fun things as I can. Exercise also helps. Have you any hobbies? Things that make you laugh or just generally enjoy?
Sounds like it's not that you feel no point in your life, more like you're not enjoying it.

the point of your life is that its yours to do with as you wish, it is what you want it to be, you can do anything you want with it, share it with who you want so go out and live it. if its mundane it is because you are not doing what you should be with it, decide how you want to live it and get out there and do it. life is too short to sit home and moan about how you are unhappy with your lot, it is within your power to change it, no one elses so work out what would make you happy and make changes to get there.

The futility of life haunts my dreams and my waking hours, tbh.

I'll take mundane over bullshit drama any day of the week. From where I sit, you have a very, very fortunate life. Perhaps If you worked on being grateful for everything you do have, and made some effort to enrich your life with new experiences, you'd feel better.

Yeah I go to the gym and go out with friends at least once a week, not drinking because I'm not really a drinker but for meals or just visiting at each others homes. I make a point of doing an activity every weekend so I don't feel as if I've wasted that time. I don't feel suicidal or anything, it is like you say softly I just don't feel like I'm enjoying life much at the moment.
I can't pinpoint what it is. I have a couple of things to looks forward, nothing massive but things I will enjoy anyway.

Ps. I am very grateful for what I have and I have worked my blooming arse off to get the life I have now.

All I wanted to know is does anyone else have spells like this, I don't sit at home and mope and I don't want to burden friends or family being a negative nelly which is why I have come on here for some advice from anyone who has felt similar emotions.

My life is currently mundane.

And I'm so glad after a five year run of family illnesses, including two terminal ones, bereavements, a family home being destroyed by fire, the drama goes on. Finally I'm no longer in crisis mode.

Book an exciting holiday or take up a new hobby to break the monotony.

Yes I do have periods like this and it feels all consuming.

Being told to 'be grateful' is not really helpful. It is an overwheming feeling of 'what's the point' and it's crap.

Try reading up on nihilism. Its interesting. I think the nub of it is realising life is pointless before we can really enjoy it.

I just want to be happy again! I totally get where you are coming from.

So sorry to hear that easilyflattered, what an incredibly tough time.

I should be grateful I have no drama, I will work on that.

I will see what there is about for a new hobbie, any suggestions?

Thank you loveka, I've never heard of that and will definitely look it up

I get it, but yes, mundanity really is a luxury. When you stop and think for a minute of all the billions of people in the past and present who, through sheer chance, spent their lives experiencing or at risk of:

Starvation
War
Rape
Murder
State brutality
Death from infection
Common loss of loved ones
Slavery
Etc
Etc

It does make me feel I won the lottery by being born when and where I was. Small rented house and minimum wage job, but I'll never starve, I have recourse to law, I have free access to medical care...you know.

"May you live in interesting times" - supposedly an old Chinese curse.

I've felt like this from time to time. However, after the awful year we have had so far I will never ever take a mundane life for granted again 🎗

No advice OP but I just want to say that I hear you as I am in the same boat.

Despite having a lovely family, no health issues, no financial worries and lots of free time at home (have older children) I feel lethargic, unmotivated, flat and kind of like I have lost my mojo. Everything seems to be an effort and I just cannot seem enthusiastic about anything lately.

I'm dreading the clocks going back as the darker days make me feel worse

Yep, I've had spells of this, now I'm approaching mid thirties. I think to a degree it is caused by having experienced a lot from life so nothing ever really seems that surprising or new anymore.

The futility of life. I don't know how I feel about that. Nihilism actually makes me giggle in a morbid way, because there is some truth in it. What helps me is trying to give myself some sort of meaning. If life really is futile, well so what. How do I want to spend it? Raising my kids as best I can and being the best human I can. I knit for charity because it feels useful and meaningful. I try to support my friends and family as best I can because I don't want them suffering in this futile life. I look forward to grandkids one day and seeing what adults my children grow into.

Yes, life may be futile, but that doesn't mean it has to lack purpose. Whilst that purpose may not have any existential meaning, it can have meaning to you and others around you.

Wow! I have found my people! I feel incredibly ungrateful for feeling like this. I've put it down to spending 10 years focusing on bringing up kids rather than focussing on pleasing myself and linking this into a mid-life crisis. My youngest is nearly 6 and I've been feeling like this for the last few years.

I think everyone has spells like this. We're taught to constantly be aiming for something bigger and better but unless we do something spectacular we're all left feeling short changed with our normal lives.
It's shit, just got to push yourself out of your comfort zone x

Yeah many people feel like this time to time I think

Then inevitably something shakes us out of it - if we are lucky (or unlucky )

For me it was that bomb on Friday actually . I was a bit low , end of the summer etc . Work etc . I realised had he chosen another end of the district line I could have had a very different day

Keep an eye on yourself as it
Might be the onset of mild depression

And ignore people who tell you off as that's useless and really u helpful

We get these dips it's part of being a human

Sounds like you need a shake up and
Some focus on something that is 100% for you

For me swimming and joining a gym has made a huge difference . Also exercising and gardening . A few bereavements help too

We're not wired to feel happy all the time, so feeling like this is normal sometimes even when everything is going well. Also, remember that happiness comes from within. Every day, try thinking of three things (can be very small) that you are greatful for. Also, try to be always planning a holiday or something thst you can look forward to ( ie spend 12 months planning each annual holiday).

Exactly....what is the point of life? I don't know!