To not want more kids?

[Babyblues14]

Just had a baby. My first. Apparently it was a normal birth. But I found it horrific. I wouldn't change my baby for the world and I'm so glad she is here but there is no way on earth I would go through it again. But I know dh would like more. Aibu to say I will never ever do it again?
Did anyone else just stop at the one baby?
Thanks for the advice

Congratulations!

I think it's ok to only want one, of course. But I would give yourself time to recover first before you make this decision. Tell dh you found it horrific and don't know if you could do it again, but don't rule it out yet.

For some women, child birth can actually bring on ptsd. If you are feeling that it's worth talking to someone. I believe some hospitals offer an appointment with a midwife a few weeks after to discuss your birth, and that can be very helpful.

Either way, good luck.

Congratulations on your new baby and so sorry about the tough birth. I had a really awful birth and nearly 6 years on I still feel traumatised and occasionally have flashbacks. I said immediately that I didn't want more children and still feel exactly the same. My son is my world. I know my DH would have probably liked another but he saw how barbaric the birth was and has been sensible enough not to mention number two with any seriousness!

You'll forget how bad the pain was. Honestly I'm sure you think that's bullshit but it's not.

It's fine to only want one though. Your body, you decide.
Congratulations.

You can always go for an elective c section, citing type 1 tokophobia, per NICE guidelines. No pain at all (in my case anyway) Slightly longer to recover but worth considering. Very different to an emergency c section.
But as someone else said, it's fundamentally your choice. I do think you'll forget the pain or there would be far more only children than there are.