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Memory book AIBU

9 replies

ComingUpTrumps · 17/09/2017 15:05

I know this is an extremely petty (and very long and boring) AIBU, but I'm not sure how to get around it, so would like your thoughts on it please.

A few months ago, I was asked by a close relative to organise an event for them. The relative also asked a couple of other people to organise it with me. As the other two people were very busy with other things (they did have valid reasons and it was absolutely fair enough), I organised everything for the event on my own.

One of the other two people meant to be organising the event (Person A) thought it would be nice to give a memory book after the event to the relative.

I've organised the book, as Person A is working away. The other person who was originally meant to be organising the event (Person B) has also told me that they think it's best if I sort out the book.

Anyway, people have all written messages for the relative in the book.

It's now quite overdue, as I've spent months chasing people up for photos and messages.

I'm still waiting for Person B to write something. We don't see each other very often, as we live quite far away from each other and B has been really busy recently with important things (absolutely fair enough). I waited until this weekend to ask B to write a message, as we'd made plans to see other. They agreed that they'd write a message, and were happy to do it.

I didn't bring the book with me to see B this weekend, as I didn't want it to get ruined or lost (which I think is fair enough). I asked B if they'd mind writing their message on a piece of paper that I could stick it in the book, but they got a bit angry and said they'd rather not write it on the piece of paper and would rather write it in the book directly.

Who is being U? AIBU?

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WhatToDoAboutThis2017 · 17/09/2017 15:07

You wanted B to sign the book. You went to see B. You did not take book so she could not sign it.

And you wonder why she's pissed? YABU.

KeepServingTheDrinks · 17/09/2017 15:08

Person B needs to pop over to your house then, doesn't he/she.

Well done for all your organising. Hope the event goes well. [and that you get full credit for all you've done!]

ConciseandNice · 17/09/2017 15:10

You. Of course they want to write it directly in the book. It shows a lack of care otherwise. My goodness. Take the book and let them write in it.

Hoolit · 17/09/2017 15:13

Depends how big the book is and how you were travelling but why did you not take the book?
On the other hand B has made no effort whatsoever so think they were out of order showing they were pissed after all you have done and it's not a big deal to write on a bit of paper.
So YANBU

ComingUpTrumps · 17/09/2017 15:17

I completely get that I'm being U for not having taken the book to B's house.

I'm a bit frustrated at B though, basically for the reasons that Hoolit explains above. (B has made no effort whatsoever so think they were out of order showing they were pissed after all you have done and it's not a big deal to write on a bit of paper.)

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ComingUpTrumps · 17/09/2017 15:45

The book is quite heavy and already filled with everyone else's photos and messages. I didn't want to run the risk of losing it at B's house as there wasn't anywhere safe to keep it, and it would get expensive to replace all of the photos.

Someone else wrote a message in the book as a typed message which I printed out and then stuck into the book. I don't think it looks scruffy, personally.

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category12 · 17/09/2017 16:22

B can sign it at the the event.

WhatToDoAboutThis2017 · 17/09/2017 17:04

I didn't want to run the risk of losing it at B's house

So the book is big and heavy, yet you think you would lose it in a friends house?

Someone else wrote a message in the book as a typed message which I printed out and then stuck into the book

So I presume you mentioned this idea to B in advance so she had time to both type up and print out a message for your book?

emmyrose2000 · 18/09/2017 07:03

YANBU

Persons A and B left you to do all the work. The least B could do is write a message on a piece of paper! If she wants to write it directly in the book, she needs to come to your house and do it.

I'd give B a deadline to either visit your house or send you the message in the mail, and then just give the book to its intended recipient minus B's message.

A and B may have had legitimate reasons for not doing their original share of the work, but it doesn't mean you have to do every single little thing.

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