Family

[outnumberedone]

I realise I probably am being unreasonable but I'm so hurt.
I live in the uk, moved here from NZ when my oldest DD was 6 months, she's now 2.5, since moving we've added to our family and now have DS who has just turned 1. My DGM and DGF both live in nz and aren't in the greatest of health so when we moved it was done so knowing we would only see them every few years. But then my DS was born with some complex health issues which meant the getting back any time in the next few years would be impossible. We also have family in AUS who my DGM and DGF visit a few times a year, both my cousins have children as well. Anyway a few months ago my DGM and sister announced they were coming over to see us in the last week of Jan/first week of Feb. I was so exciting as I've missed my family. A few days later my cousin announced she was having her 4th child which was exciting her due date is for while DGM is over here. I didn't think to much of it, but then about a month ago my DGM started making comments every day about how it the new baby is born while she's over here she'll have to leave to go to aus because she doesn't want to wait to meet the new baby. DGM hasn't met my 1yo or seen my DD since she was 2months old.. I know it's stupid but I'm so hurt by her comments, nobody said that to me about my youngest, and given both my youngest and my DGMs health issues it's probably the first and last time they'll get to see each other and all DGM can talk about is waiting to see my cousins new baby!

That would wind me up also. Suspect they are closer to your cousins children as able to fly there in just a few hours compared to the day of travel to get to you. Would be nice if they didn't voice that though!

No advice really I'm afraid but I share your annoyance! I would feel exactly the same way

Tough, but it is you who moved.

That's so hurtful! I would have to say something!

"Well you can meet my babies instead DGM, that'll tide you over!"

@Cailleach666 yes it is- but the fact the my DGM wants to cut her 2 week holiday short if the new baby is born (which is highly highly likely) is a little hurtful, the new baby will still be there a week later when she's due to fly home

The OP understands that because she moved she would only see DGM infrequently and she's not complaining about that. OP is upset because DGM would finish the visit early to fly back to see her cousins new baby. OP is not bring unreasonable to be hurt by this.

You chose to move far away so of course your DGM will be closer to the family who live nearer. You need to grow a thicker skin.
People often say things but dont carry them out. To cut their holiday short and buy another ticket may prove to be too expensive.
So while you feel hurt now just wait and see how things work out.

Do you think she wants you to suggest that they come another time instead? Jan/Feb in the UK is pretty miserable anyway.

I'd actually go so far as to suggest she comes at another time sonshe can spend the whole time with you guys and not 'on call' to head to Australia- that way everyone is happy.

@underneaththeash the whole point of her wanting to come then was because she wanted to see snow. I've suggested she come another time and she said no that she'd just cut this trip short if needed. money is well and truly no issue for them so just buying a ticket to leave sooner wouldn't worry them in the slightest.

You let's hope when she is here she will see what a wasted trip that will be if she left home. I've gone the London to Auckland trip myself and it's exhausting, when here she will get caught up in your lovely children and I'm sure all thoughts of flying home early will leave her mind 😊