AIBU to expect my DCs to be to be able to spend more than 30 seconds together without trying to kill each other?

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I dread weekends. I hate them. My DH is always at work. I work too. But every weekend, without fail it ends with me losing my shit because my 2 DD fight constantly, we don't have a lot of space, they have to share a room. We are renting and can't afford to move. They drive each other (and me) mad with the constant bickering and it's starting to get me down. Why can't we be a normal family? (I know, no such thing). Why can't they just get on. AIBU to consider just leaving them to it and opening a bottle of wine instead?

Glad it's not just my two.

I think there is a switch on the top step of the stairs cause every time my foot touches it WW3 breaks out.

Then 5 mins later are cuddling until one of them irritates the other and the cycle starts again.

I get so excited when I get to sit in the front passenger seat as I have spent the last 9 years in the back due to constant fighting and whinging.

Mine flip between nauseating fondness of each other to outright hostilities (and back again) in 5 seconds

Do you think we should all move in together; the children can fight it out between them and we can be next door with the wine and a massage on tap

Haha op, sounds like a plan.

Both of mine fell asleep with in 15 minutes. I think the crazy wore them out.

I really don't know what got in to them today. I'm meant to be starting back on my diet but have just shoved veggie burger and sweet potato chips in the oven.

Hope everyone has a good night

Mine are twins. They dont physically fight much but snipe at each other constantly verbally. Although today they collaborated brilliantly to be very naughty.... I am not sure which is worse...

Myself (now 36) and my brother used to murder each other. Great friends the last 20 years or so! He's 4 years younger. My mother used to swear blind that she never fought with her siblings. She's one of 11 kids so I checked this with my grandmother who said mum was one of the worst offenders

I bet it's painful to listen to but it will eventually pass.

It's definitely wine o'clock. Here's hoping for a better day tomorrow for us all

You have my full sympathy OP
My 2 start winding each other up before they are both downstairs of a morning.

5 yr gap and drive me bloody mad.

Big one says little ones annoying, little one wants big one to play with her, "bit they are babies games" according to ds.
Ffs just stop fighting

My Mum was an only child, she hated that we fought all the time as kids. We don't fight now we're in our 40s. My three fight constantly and because there are three there are lots of different combinations when they fight but 2 against 1 is the worst. The TV usually helps until they start fighting about whose turn it is to choose. Sigh. DH and I keep threatening to run away and leave them to it.

My two have been the same ( 3.5 yr age gap) they play beautifully but then one of them gets hurt (despite me warning them to stop) and it all kicks off, or I go to the toilet or leave the room and they are off! I think the rain and being stuck indoors hasn't helped

*Ffs just stop fighting
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This every minute of every day 😂

I have 3 and regardless of which two are within spitting distance of eachother you can guarantee within two or three minutes one of them will be screeching about what the other has done to them. And it's a very special moment when they manage to triangulate the dynamic and are each roaring about something one (and sometimes both) of the others are doing. Totally normal here!

Could of written this myself. Boys 6 and 2 from the moment they wake till the moment they go to sleep it is a constant noise. Shouting, screaming, banging even when they are "having fun". I'm surprised the neighbour hasn't called the police from all the noise. When they are apart they are golden but when they are together...Jesus Christ, all hell breaks loose.

They could have an identical toy and still want the one the other one has got.

Lots of wine and breathing techniques. I tell myself it is just a faze but I think that's a lie.

Good luck!

Mine are OK now that they're 14 and 17.

Seven or 8 years ago they would physically attack each other regularly. The number of times I had to pull off the motorway to split them up. They even managed to fight over an imaginary ball (don't ask!).

But have hope OP, nowadays they're ok...mostly. It just seems like a never ending wait!

Mine are at it again this morning.

My ds complaint this morning is "why is she standing up" 😂

My dts either love each other or hate each other. Not sure what the answer is tbh. They're downstairs playing on the switch atm while I have a lie in. No blood curdling screaming yet.

Mine fight constantly (2ds aged 7 and 4) all day long until it's bed time when suddenly they can't bear to be apart and they're in and out of each other's rooms. I leave them to it to be honest as it's the only confirmation I get that they like each other.

I shouldn't be surprised to be fair - my younger brother and I still carry actual scars from growing up together.

FML

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Why is she standing up 😂 why is she breathing

My 2 don't physically fight much (though it does happen!) but they bicker constantly. I am quite often to be found saying 'if you can't say anything nice to each other don't say anything at all!'

The oldest will disagree with anything the younger one says. So the younger one says, 'it's sunny today isn't it?' And his brother replies, 'no, I'm cold.'

Last year they were banned from playing together at school by me and the teachers because of the arguing etc (and occasional kick/thump etc)but this year I've told them they can play together but not to come moaning to me when they inevitably fall out!

The trouble is, they argue incessantly but can't leave each other alone! They are drawn together like magnets!