Paranoid or is this the reason? (Nursery)

[Dancingfairy]

My child was signed up for a new nursery and we had are first settling in session on Thursday. I was told I could stay the entire session. I was sat down and also have a baby, after about half an hour she started crying to be fed. I proceeded to feed her (bf) and within about 5 minutes literally the lady told me she thinks it's better if I wait upstairs and rushed me out (even seeing I was mid feed not like she waited for me to finish) I said ok fine so went upstairs where she told me to wait an hour to see if my son would be ok without me then she would call me back down. Do you think this was the reason or am I being totally paranoid. Seemed rather odd to me.

Our nursery do an hour settling in session which the parent stays for (not sure about baby siblings attending as well, I understand you may not have been able to leave them, but I can imagine this would have been distracting regardless of whether you were feeding or not). Then they go for an hour where you leave them and go off site, then they start for good...which for mine was full time.

My son's nursery invited parents to stay for the first week, but most were comfortable drifting away after a few days. It worked wonderfully and helped us to get to know the staff (and vice versa) as well as the other children and parents. It helped the staff understand our preferences/techniques when dealing with our son and gave us confidence that he would be well looked after.

It was much more reassuring than the 2x rushed half hour settling in sessions we'd been offered at a previous nursery.

When my son started nursery many moons ago there was a settling in session where I stayed in the room a while and then went into the staff room for a cuppa so if he got upset I could go back in.

Seems odd but you can't say for certain.

I've done settling at 2 nurseries and at both they've asked the parent to stay for 1/2 hours for the first couple of times.

I was asked to wait in a corridor out of sight in case the child gets upset. After an hour, they said I could go, he was fine. Difficult to settle with mum in the room, the child will not see the nursery nurses as primary carers and go to mum when they need something.

I still think they handled it in a really off way. Why ask you to hurry upstairs when you had a baby attached to your breast? Why not wait 10 minutes? And why not tell you that was the plan when you arrived and then you would have been slightly more prepared.

All I can think is that your baby was crying very loudly before you started feeding and she thought it was too distracting for the children, hence the big rush to get you out.

No the baby wasn't crying loudly at all, more a moany cry I wouldn't let her loudly scream without attempting to feed her before hand so she wasn't loudly screaming iyswim? Even then as I said we had been feeding for around 5 minutes when she asked. She knew I was bringing the baby as I told her I am a single parent with no child care at the home visit. Also the children there weren't interested in me or the baby, they never approached us at all and were sat in a circle playing a board game.

Well that's odd then. Some people are still twitchy about breast feeding in front of others, which is a shame.
Nurseries now have so many guidelines in place about appropriate behaviour, perhaps she got muddled up and thought it was some sort of safe guarding issue having a breast exposed?

Hopefully it doesn't put you off the nursery.