To have a diminished sense of humour now?

[Wishfulmakeupping]

I've been self conscious a couple of years that things I would have found funny or light conversations no longer amuse me.
I was diagnosed with an illness thought terminal at the time and obviously it's impacted on my personality.
At a very basic level it takes quite a lot to make me laugh now very few main stream comedians can make me laugh.
Dh commented tonight that I should stop being so serious and have have a bloody laugh for once 😔 I wish I could I know I'm hard work for people but things seem different now

That was a major sign of depression for me - loss of humour. TLk to your doctor

To clarify my illness and situation are not as bleak as initially though I'm actually in not as physically health at all now thankfully

Sorry that should be not in bad physical health all at!

Bump

I agree with Qvar; it would be a good idea to go to your gp to talk it through.

Tell DH to be funnier, and you'll comply. Then curl up on the sofa with a cuppa and whatever book/movie/tv show you enjoy, serious or lighthearted. Laughter may be the best medicine, but like all medicines it doesn't always go down easily. I've been in a very similar situation, and the best advice I can give is to not let anyone else tell you how to feel. Be kind to yourself, and if you have any concerns talk to your GP.

You've said that you've changed as well as your H. You have taken a massive hit psychologically and it's going to take for you to come to terms with what has happened to you.
It is a sign of being depressed or having ptsd. It may be worth chatting to your gp.

Thank you maybe it's something I need to consider- I don't feel depressed I'm quite content really I'm well I now have 2 beautiful dc but I just am changed as a person I feel more serious than before. I think although I was in my mid 20's when it happened it made me finally grow up iyswim

I don't find many mainstream comedians funny. I don't tend towards enjoying 'comedy' at all (especially on tv) and wouldn't go to a comedy night. I suspect our attitudes to these things change as we go through life, but it doesn't mean we're boring curmudgeons. I had a delightful and hilarious night with friends last night, and we laughed lots, mostly about the ridiculous things life throws at us.

Personally, I find being told to 'lighten up' as helpful as being advised to 'calm down': it's usually an indicator of the other person's ability to deal with your feelings.

I don't necessarily think you're depressed just because you don't find things funny that you did before. Your life experiences do change you and a potentially terminal illness is going to have an impact. But you could talk to your GP if you think you aren't happy with where you are emotionally.

I had a similar thing happen 2 years ago and it does take time to get past the shock and emotional impact. I'm also not the person I was before and have less time for things I think are trivial.

It will come back.
I had cancer in my twenties and felt very serious for a while after.
I did however also need a course of anti depressants.
It shakes your very soul being ill and facing up to your own mortality.
I used to tell people my bubble had burst. You know that bad things can actually happen to you after all.
Hope you continue to stay well.

Even though your diagnosis was better news than initially thought, you've obviously been seriously unwell. Physical depression leads to an emotional depression.

I totally relate. I became seriously ill about 20 months ago and they couldn't diagnose me. I really thought I would die. I'd never truly felt that in life. I was so ill. They were testing me for lymphoma, which I was sure I had. Anyway, long story short, I had a weird virus (parvovirus) which triggered a long-term autoimmune response. It took me 9 months to get over.

It's left me low and anxious. I am not the happy person I used to be. But I'm getting there. I began doing Vedic meditation and that's really helped me.

I think you're not quite out of the woods and there's definitely a certain amount of PTSD involved. I mean, you thought you had a life changing, terminal illness. That would be traumatic.

You will get there. I notice lately that I'm laughing a lot more. I'm beginning to notice the beauty around me. In other words, optimism is returning. Though I regret not going on anti Ds. I would have liked to have gotten to this place a bit sooner. I still get terrible lows though and I totally relate this to the illness.

You're a bit traumatised OP. Acknowledge this and find suitable ways to recover. I hope your relationship will be ok. Mine took a beating but we've recovered.