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AIBU?

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Original poster

To think that the behaviour of some hen "weekends" is just awful?

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Creambun2 · 15/09/2017 12:08

Currently having a miserable long distance train journey with two huge groups of hens off for weekends already wasted. Carriage is like a war zone piles of empty cheap drinks everywhere, food and litter all over floor, shreiking and screaming, playing music out of phones, giving the poor conducter grief as he picked them up on a non valid ticket.

I know it nothing new but why does anyone go for those horrid, common t-shirts where everyone from the brides mother down has to have a nasty nick name, "slutty sarah", "dirty dawn" are to of the hilarious examples here.

Seems to be the same sort of people who make drunk idiots of themselves at race meetings.

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plantsitter · 15/09/2017 12:45

I don't disagree with you but when you talk about 'nasty, common t-shirts' you do sound a leetle bit like Julian out of the Famous Five.

However, those kinds of Hen-dos are terrifying.

Evilstepmum01 · 15/09/2017 12:45

Each to their own even!

blackteasplease · 15/09/2017 12:46

It doesn't bother me to see it. But not my idea of fun either. Stag nights/ weekends are of course often either similar or worse!

Creatureofthenight · 15/09/2017 12:51

Honestly makes me think there's a case for banning alcohol on trains when you get big groups getting lairy and annoying everyone else.
My hen do had a simple rule - no willies, bridal veils, or any of that shit.

squoosh · 15/09/2017 12:51

I don't care how tacky someone's hen weekend is as long as it doesn't impinge on me. Screeching on a train and playing crappy music would grind my gears.

guiltynetter · 15/09/2017 12:53

these types of hen do's are so cringey and embarrassing. i hate the tshirts and the inflatable willies

although they aren't all like that! last weekend, 7 of us on a 3.5 hour train journey. we had prosecco and a couple of other drinks, distributed badges and a sash for the hen. we managed to make it all the way there without shouting or swearing or being excessively loud.

ThymeLordIsSpartacus · 15/09/2017 12:54

I don't disagree with you about the shitty behaviour on the train, it isn't nice for anyone to be subjected to that, but your description of "nasty, common t-shirts" is completely off and makes you sound like you are looking down on them for not having your kind of fun.

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Creambun2 · 15/09/2017 12:58

thyme how would you describe a t-shirt with "slutty sarah" emblazened on the back then?

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MiddlingMum · 15/09/2017 12:58

But so many people, including me, ARE looking down on them. Freedom to judge and all that

ThymeLordIsSpartacus · 15/09/2017 13:00

I'd describe it as a t-shirt Then again, I don't tend to feel the need to put the word 'common' before anything in order to accurately describe it.

expatinscotland · 15/09/2017 13:06

YANBU. Hate being subjected to other people's fucking music and being stupid in public when drunk. Was once stuck on a jam-packed cross-country train from Newcastle to Glasgow with a group of hens acting stupid and loud. It was funny for about 5 minutes. They broke into song, of course. Then called out, 'Any requests?' Thankfully a deep and booming voice rang out, 'Yeah, STFU!' and they did. And got off in Edinburgh. Inhaling someone's vomit fumes from Berwick to Edinburgh is really unpleasant and it was impossible to get away for the aisles being crammed with people.

just5morepeas · 15/09/2017 13:08

Well I'm as common a muck and I'd describe that kind of thing as common.

Some people deserve to be judged.

Emmageddon · 15/09/2017 13:09

Manchester Born and Bread

Unless the bride-to-be was a member of the Warburton family, and it was an intentional pun, you'd think the t-shirt printer would have pointed out the misspelt word.

I can think of nothing worse than being trapped in a train carriage full of loud drunk people. I find that sort of environment very intimidating. I would probably get off the train and wait for the next one.

BrevilleTron · 15/09/2017 13:11

My sister's hen was a great one but no T-shirts or obnoxious behaviour involved (We'd convinced her that she was bungee-jumping off the Clifton Suspension Bridge and blindfolded her so the boat party was met with relief 😂😂)

IF (and it's a huge 'if') I ever get married again I'd just have something pleasant and simple. no clubbing/strippers/random Willie's and Definitely No L plates

PJBanana · 15/09/2017 14:20

I feel your pain OP. SIL's hen was one of these affairs, I was kind of pressured into going by MIL and naively thought "how bad could it be?"

The answer is: bad.

I honestly thought I would have a bit of a laugh but I spent the weekend feeling thoroughly embarrassed. I accidentally on purpose 'lost' my penis straw within minutes of us reaching our destination.

BarbaraofSevillle · 15/09/2017 14:31

who the hell would print t-shirts with rude nick names on front and "birches on tour london 2017 on the back

I know someone who makes a very good living from that sort of thing. He does spell everything correctly though.

PoppyH56 · 15/09/2017 14:56

Probably one in a minority here but my best friend got married last year and we went to Newcastle on her hen do. We live in the South East so had to get a train. We all just wore black t shirts and the hen had a white t shirt on with "Bride" on it. We were drinking on the train (in small tins) as we got a 4pm train and were due to go out straight after and were probably louder than most as we were spread out across 8 sets of seats and were chatting but weren't screaming/howling nor were we rude or left our rubbish anywhere. In fact, we had a number of people (old, young, couples, mums) all come up to us and ask the bride about her wedding, her fiancée and then hen do etc and seem v interested. When I see a hen do on the train, providing they acted the way we did I find myself smiling at them and being excited for the weekend ahead of them as my best friends hen was so much fun! I know I'm in the minority though

PoppyH56 · 15/09/2017 14:58

Also there were no L plates or willy straws in sight so maybe that made it a bit less "common"

statetrooperstacey · 15/09/2017 16:49

at poppy with her small tins (classy).
Last hen do I went on, my daughters, I got cracked round the face by the strippers cock. Fun times.

jaseyraex · 15/09/2017 17:15

Listening to their music blaring from a phone would piss me off most tbh, absolutely grinds my gears! Each to their own but I don't "get" those hen dos. My cousin had one and I hated the whole bloody thing. She tried to get us all to deep throat a willy lollipop on the train to Edinburgh to see who did it best, it was 2pm and there was children around us. I was mortified!

FlyingGiraffeBox · 15/09/2017 17:24

Used to work in the kind of cheesy nightclub that attracted hen dos. We dreaded them. Although there are bans in many places for stags honestly the hens were always worse. The blokes just got pissed. The hens were the ones drinking so much that they were sick, getting into shrieking arguments and full blown fights, abusing staff and generally sexually harassing all the men in the building. I vowed then I would never ever have one like that.

Nettletheelf · 15/09/2017 17:25

York has apparently become nightmarish every weekend from May to September inclusive, because it's turned into a stag and hen weekend magnet.

I don't live there, but I've been a couple of times this year and you can't even cross the bridges in the town centre for crowds of staggering screaming people...at lunchtime on Saturday.

Can't believe that people are still wearing pink stetsons. What a yawn. They have been around for 15 years!

Doramaybe · 15/09/2017 17:33

I don't mind anyone having fun. The irony is that outrageous Hen gigs are so commonplace nowadays that there is nothing new about them anymore. Same ole, same ole.

Anyway, let me tell you that I am working in Dublin at the moment. OMG the weekends are unreal with hens and stags, but they are for the most part just having a bit of fun. But since I've been here, I now know where the natives go on the weekend in Dublin, and it is nowhere near Temple Bar either. Just so cool and enjoyable and not a hen nor a stag in sight! But that's a secret for now!! Easily found though if you search around.

Let them at it. If they are annoying you on a train it is a different matter, don't know what can be done there, or on a plane either yikes!

When it was my sister's turn she had a gathering in a place out in the wilds with activities attached. All the messing and hilarity was in their rented cottage(s), one place was command central!

I said no, sorry won't be going love, being ten years older!. So she had a lovely afternoon tea for the grumpies followed by a session in a pub that had great music. You went on to the pub if you wanted to.

Funnily enough I think most people just raise their eyes to heaven, or smile or laugh at their antics and get out of dodge as quickly as possible.

Leave them at it.

Doramaybe · 15/09/2017 17:34

Sis had two gatherings, just to mention, one for mad young ones, and the other for the grumpies. Perfect.

saltandvinegarcrisps1 · 15/09/2017 17:38

Thebus - I'll see your cunt and raise you a 'Ho' and 'mother of the ho' (on sashes)

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