To ask whether I'm being overly sensitive?

[StellaArquatre]

One of my closest friends is a bit down as stupid man didn't text her after they slept together. She's gorgeous and such a catch so I consoled with times when men have been horrible to me too - it's happened to us all! We are both single and both fairly attractive I would say? Mid twenties.

One of my other best friends looks like a supermodel and I was saying how a guy had recently done the same to her. My friend was then like, oh that makes me feel better because it really does happen to everyone!

I guess she meant that if it happened to supermodel, it can't be about looks etc. and I've had thoughts like that too of course! It does happen to everyone. But aibu to be a bit hurt/jealous that she doesn't consider me attractive enough to put in the "it happens to everyone" league?!

I think you are reading too much into it.

Do you also look like a supermodel then?

I mean, it's quite a superficial point she's making but weren't you making more or less the same point?

No i don't!

No i wasn't making that point, I was just using her as an example as she is my best friend - so just trying to say how xyz also had a bad experience with a boy. Not making a looks comparison!

Oh okay, well she is (judging these things superficially).

So you're upset that she doesn't find you sufficiently attractive?

I guess, we should not divide people into supermodels and not supermodels. Its some kind of stupid stereotype. We all are equal, you know, it even happens with men! Hah. Women sleep with them and then ditch. No matter how you look and what your gender is, people might be just rude and stupid. you have to be careful not to meet one. and you need to respect yourself all the time to avoid this to happen. so instead of thinking whether you look like a model or not, think about the better values in life, sweetheart. you ARE beautiful and men are not to judge.

I agree, with all of the above! Yes I guess I'm upset cos I'm not deemed sufficiently attractive maybe?! I don't know.

Well you said it yourself: your other friend looks like a supermodel. Presumably you, while being attractive, don't? So she's only agreeing with what you already think.

That is what she's implying, but I wouldn't be hurt of offended because you just said she looks like "a supermodel" and you and the dumped friend don't. Who cares though, being dumped has nothing to do with looks and I'm sure you're both pretty enough without having to look like Naomi Campbell or whatever

You used your friend as an example. As she accepted what you said.

Now you are annoyed?

Or maybe she thinks that one other person she knows is merely a coincidence, but two confirms (in her mind at least) that it's a common thing?! Or equally, you might be just saying that about yourself to make her feel better but if you're saying it about someone else too then it's more likely to be true?!
You're being overly sensitive.

I would feel like this too but long experience of managing my insecurities would tell me I was being a bit sensitive. But you feel how you feel and it's OK to be a bit put out - but remember your other friend may not have meant that at all, and in any case definitely did not at out to hurt you.

Also, supermodel is just one way of looking attractive - just because you aren't of a similar body or face or whatever doesn't mean you aren't lovely too.

Viola Davis, Rebel Wilson, Dita Von Teese, Alex Wek, Kate Moss - not a one of them looks a bit like the others, all of them are attractive. We all are in a billion different ways.

Don't worry too much OP, i would have taken it to mean 'the cumulative effect of hearing it happen to more than one person (i.e you AND supermodel) means it happens to everyone'. Don't take it too personally.