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Sienna333 · 14/09/2017 23:27

When you ask someone "How are you?" And they reply with "Good, thanks" and then don't ask the same question back, do you find that rude?

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WhatToDoAboutThis2017 · 14/09/2017 23:29

Yes, I find it very rude.

HidingBehindTheWallpaper · 14/09/2017 23:31

I never know what to say.
What does Debretts say on the matter?

MaroonPencil · 14/09/2017 23:33

I believe when someone says "How are you?" one is supposed to simply reply "how are you?" back. It sounds absolutely insane in practice though.

I usually say "Fine thanks! How are you!" Because I am common.

MaroonPencil · 14/09/2017 23:34

Oh I've got it muddled with How do you do, ignore me! Still sounds weird though.

Anecdoche · 14/09/2017 23:37

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elephantoverthehill · 14/09/2017 23:42

The Bristolian approach negates any of this social juggling. Simply utter 'Riight' and the responder replies 'Riight'. 'Nuff said.

Fluffyears · 14/09/2017 23:55

Ah see in Scotland we have this sorted 'awright?' 'Aye awright'

MyBrilliantDisguise · 14/09/2017 23:59

MaroonPencil, it's "How do you do?" that you are supposed to repeat, not "How are you?"

ForagingForFaerieGold · 15/09/2017 00:04

Pity them for their lack of social graces and move on. Yes it's rude, but they clearly don't know any better Smile

loaferloveforyou · 15/09/2017 00:07

The British response is "good thanks, you?"

If some replied with "I'm ok thanks" and not ask how I am I would assume they were less than ok.

Seren85 · 15/09/2017 00:11

The NW version is "reet?" "Aye, reet?" "Aye". You can't just say "yes thanks" without asking back.

GreatFuckability · 15/09/2017 00:12

Yeah, in South Wales we have this down as

'Alright?'
'alright, you alright?'
'yeah, i'm alright'
and then we move on. and everyone is alright.

GreatFuckability · 15/09/2017 00:13

'alright' being pronounced as 'uh-riht' for the most part.

LondonLassInTheCountry · 15/09/2017 00:13

Yes. I say how are you back.... But when my partner is asked this question he very rarely asks back. I find it rude

minkecohn · 15/09/2017 00:36

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TheRockingGazelles · 15/09/2017 00:42

I just do it the Cornish way
'Alright?'
'Yeh, you?'
'Yeh'

StepAwayFromCake · 15/09/2017 09:08

From an autistic POV, this drove me nuts until I understood that "How are you?" is not a genuine question. I mean, why ask it if you don't want to hear the answer? I expect people thought that I was very rude. And boring.

I had no problem with "How do you do?", because that is such obsolete language that it is a nonsense phrase. I eventually worked out that "How are you?" is equivalent to "How do you do?", but with a different, more complicated response. Wow!

Social skills, bloody minefield.

MorrisZapp · 15/09/2017 09:09

Middle class version 'I'm really well thanks'

GinGeum · 15/09/2017 09:14

I admit to getting a bit over excited and socially awkward as a result, and normally when someone says 'hi, how are you?' I say 'oh hi! How are you!' Blush

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