To not have my weekend on the weekend?

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I don't normally get a chance to have a weekend on the weekend as DH works a lot of weekends. He does shift work so his days off could be a Monday and Tuesday (that's an example, it could be whenever) and that'd be our weekend, as we don't normally have the weekend together. Last week we invited some friends around on Wednesday evening (which I totally get is inconvenient for a lot of people and had no expectations for anyone to come) but we got a lot of for suggesting to have a mid-week glass of wine as opposed to having it on the weekend( it was the wine that got to be clear). If his days off are Wednesday/Thursday then that's when we relax and do things, and then when the weekend comes that's like a Monday to us iyswim. People still thought this was baffling and couldn't understand why we'd do things then. AIBU or are Friday/Saturday/Sunday special days and only then can you enjoy/do things that are classed as 'weekend' activities?

Maybe they just didn't want to drink when they had work the next day? Plenty of my friends work unsociable hours so we often go out during the week or for a morning coffee after a night shift etc. I don't think many people are surprised that not everyone works mon-fri but plenty of people might not drink when they do have to work in the morning.

The problem with his type of job is that his weekend isn't everyone else's. The majority of people are off on Saturday and Sunday; which is why Fri/Sat are good nights - no work the following day. On Wednesday evening, most people would have work the following day.

I wouldn't be that uptight about a drink or two on a weekday evening but some people prefer not to drink at all during the week. Or are perhaps worried about dealing with the consequences of drinking whilst at work.

I totally get that @FittonTower but they couldn't understand why we were going to have some even when they understood that it's our weekend to us.

What's wrong with during wine during the week even if you have work the next day? It isn't heroin

Your friends sound a bit lame. Going out mid- week is pretty normal in my group, not for a massive bender but a boozy dinner party is fine.

Maybe they can't handle the next morning, some people get hungover form just a glass.

I spent years working Thursday-Sunday nights, so Monday was my Saturday night and the wine came out! 🍷

We do this. DH is a fireman so works odd shifts.
We'd have our Saturday night takeaway and wine on a Tuesday as he'd be working all weekend.
It was the midweek takeaway that flummoxed everyone though, not the wine!!

Are they sanctimonious about drinking? I used to work in a hospital and a friend and I got into a habit of having a drink after a night shift so would often get home at 7ish after having had a pint and I had a house mate that was weirdly horrified that I might have been drinking in the morning. She wasn't weirdly horrified about lots of stuff tho because she was one of those Christians.....

I've found ppl to be the same about this; like completely aghast that you'd drink EVER in the week (even if it's just a glass of wine) but then apparently it's fine to get absolutely plastered every wknd.

It's odd; a lot of ppl have that wknd binge drinking mentality I've found. The ironic thing is, ppl I know with this attitude often drink more than me and my DP overall (if you counted weekly units) but because they don't drink in the week in their minds that's fine.

We've always done things on own schedule as he did barwork for quite a few years so obv wknds were out for us. Also, I prefer to go out on quieter nights when all the 'wknd drinkers' aren't there so a Thursday/Wednesday is probably my ideal night to do something.

Couldn't they just come round to your and not drink/only drink a glass? Seems odd to never go out in the week unless you have to start work super early the next day or something.

We're the same OP as OH works shifts. Next week our weekend will be Tues/Wed and we'll most definitely be having wine, beer and a takeaway. Most of our friends would be happy to join us week day or not but it's harder to get a babysitter in the week.

At work it's a different matter and the faces in my office if you mention you've had wine email the night before! But it's a school night! I'm in bed by 9.30pm! Really? Live a little I say!!!