AIBU to make DC's room safe and leave them to it?

[HyacinthBouvier]

Posting here for traffic - DC does not sleep. At least three wakings last night between 21:30 and 5am, when he is up for the day. We have tried pretty much everything except controlled crying, which is not an option for us.

Have been googling 'how not to lose my mind with sleep deprivation' all morning and came across the Montessori method of baby-gating the child's room and leaving them with their mattress on the floor to sleep or not as they please.

He is only 13 months. I will properly baby-proof the room. This is ok right?

Won't he cry for you anyway if he isn't sleeping?

That's what I want to find out I think - he's a very independent kid - doesn't need me at toddler groups unless he hurts himself, content to play on his own etc so I'm hoping if, given the choice, he might plonk about for a bit before summoning me

3 wakings isn't that bad although you may well feel exhausted and it is less than Ideal. How do you handle it when he wakes? Do you go in at once or see if he can self settle, keep it quiet and dark, offer food? Does he catch up in the day, what if you limited daytime naps and tried to reset the pattern?

DC is still very young and needs your reassurance. Sleepless nights don't stop at 1 year old unfortunately, you'll find many mums here have much older children who don't sleep through still. Just keep at it knowing that they won't be getting up in the night forever Good luck!