To ask for your suggestions on how to care less?

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I work in higher education and have always loved my job....until now. We have a new head of division who is quite simply a psychopath, who made it explicitly clear that she wanted to take apart my department and is now doing so. Everything we do is changing, everyone who can is leaving and those of us who can't leave are utterly miserable. We see our area of work going down the pan because the people in charge do not understand what we do or how we do it, and we've exhausted all the avenues for trying to find a resolution.

I'm stuck in my role and can't move because I'm pregnant and need the maternity pay. Because I'm pregnant (and for my general health) I need to find a way to care less, to switch off, and to just accept the new reality. But I don't know how to do it. I work with students and find it hard to just think 'ah well, the shit will just have to hit the fan' because of the impact on them. Does anyone have any suggestions for how to reframe my approach? I should add that I'm already marked out as a trouble maker because I have tried to speak up. Also I realise that my opinion on what will and won't work is just that - an opinion, and I could end up being proved wrong, but I
can't even seem to find a way to accept that and just embrace the change.

I don't want to read and run... have you a union? I would suggest that were possible have things in writing i.e. Email.

I would say that you should try to compartmentalise work from home life and do something distressing every evening. Giving yourself a cut of time to think about work and remember it is just a job you and your baby come first.

Do we work together??!! Same happening at my place. But am pretty sure this new head of dept will create change and chaos and then move on to their next power trip position. Always happens! And we pick up the pieces.

Booty - we do have a union, and they've been supporting us as far as they can. Problem is that the head of HR is a political player who has her sights set on a promotion, so she's unlikely to take on our boss.

Button - maybe! In our case we know that the boss is only planning to be here for two years - that was clear from the outset. Sound familiar?

Just found out another colleague is almost certainly leaving. Cried when she told me. I'm her manager for crying out loud - feel so unprofessional and did not want to make her feel in any way guilty. I just can't seem to get a grip.