AIBU to think I should be able to watch my child do Jujitsu?

[Silverstreaks]

I've just dropped DD at her weekly class at a school different to her daily one.

All parents have been told to leave and come back five minutes before the end. Apparently the school has said parents cannot be in the school premises without a DBS check. Is this actually correct? It seems overkill to me.

I was taught to swim as one of five one of whose mothers stayed and she expected the tutor to give her son all the attention and all his time. And the only way to stop that is a no-parents rule.

Unfortunately a small minority of parents behave badly, argue with the instructors and spoil the class or club.

(I even witnessed one parent threaten a swimming teacher).

It's easier to just ban all parents rather than try to establish which parents may potentially cause trouble.

It's unfair on the rest but sadly that seems to be the way society is going.

It's not unfair on the rest. It's better for all the children including those whose parents would behave properly.

Well that told me!

My daughter does jujitsu after school once a week in term time .Parents pick up at the time the class finishes .She goes to the same class out of term time depending on which class I take her too one you can stay as it is in a sports centre or the other you can sit in the waiting area outside the hall if you wish .I have no problem with this her sensei is a brillant,he is firm but absolutely brillant with the children. His classes are very popular and since doing it her confidence has come on leaps and bounds. She lives going.

Oy Mama - I'll 'ave you know I'm very well behaved.

I wear pearls and drink tea

However well behaved the parents, there are plenty of kids who just don't concentrate when their parents are in the room. It's a different dynamic, part of their attention is elsewhere.

We weren't allowed to stay and watch even our 4yos at ballet and I can see why. The car with a thermos, or a brisk walk in the neighbourhood seems the way to go.

IdaDown, I believe you!

None of my children's indoor clubs have parents watching them.

I teach karate and allow the parents to watch, and they are allowed to watch all grading except black belt gradings.

Personally as a parent myself I like to watch and see how my kids are getting on; as an instructor it can be distracting for the kids if their parents are there or reassuring for the younger ones. No hard and fast rule works for all so my club is flexible.

I sit in my daughters taekwondo class out of convenience, but I don't enjoy it. The only thing worse than other people's children - is other children's parents. This thread has highlighted to me that I shouldn't contribute to the annoyance that parents observing a lesson cause.

I will stop sticking around in future.

I don't much like being around other people, I don't expect my views to be considered normal.

I only loiter if it's a short class or there's nowhere to grab a cuppa. I've got a DRB anyway and leave the teachers to it (head in mumsnet the paper).

My dh does karate...we sit and watch but can see how it can be very annoying when you get the sideline parents shouting at their kids to do this and do that when they're supposed to be listening to sensei.