I appreciate that title makes me sound like the devil! However, ds paternal grandmother did not buy him a card, present or even call him on his birthday this year! Ds is 10, he has no contact with his father but I have always encouraged access to his fathers extended family, often having granny over for dinner, he stays there (although only once or twice a year).
This year we had not heard from her for about 6 weeks before his birthday when she called the day she had booked a holiday to Spain not realising it meant she would be away for his birthday. I said this was no problem and she should go and enjoy herself and we'd see her when she's back. I saw various posts on social media she had posted whilst she was away but no contact was made with ds on his birthday. She came back but still did not make contact. Ds birthday was in July, not heard anything until yesterday when she text me to ask if he could go for lunch Sunday to celebrate her birthday. Of course I've said yes, I would not deny him to see her, but I'm fuming that his birthday had just been completely ignored and we are supposed to roll out the red carpet for hers. (She is 53 so not a milestone) I'm debating not sending a present out of principle but I feel maybe I'm just being petty? It broke my heart seeing ds waiting for her call on his birthday.