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To think organising the work Christmas meal is a thankless task?

91 replies

WinditupSlowitdown · 13/09/2017 18:41

So half the people never responded to my email suggesting locations. I spent ages looking over different restaurants too.

These are the people that I know 100% would come to the meal Confused

Just so annoying! How hard is it to look at the menu and say yes or no?

The company even pays for it, so it's not a money issue.

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Slimthistime · 14/09/2017 18:19

Fresh - I see. I often think I'd like to work in a one horse town but maybe not.

Coffee - I'm amazed anyone went to that.

Doramaybe · 14/09/2017 18:39

I am one of those introverts, so forgive me.

I went to two office Christmas "do"s and never will do so again. EVER.

What is it all for anyway? We see enough of each other every sodding day anyway. So what do we talk about etc.

Would be far nicer if management just stuck 50 quid on your desk on the last day before Christmas, then everyone benefits, others can use the money on a party.

Sorry to be such a moaning minny, but I would reckon I am not alone. And am older too, so don't get all the high heels, make up and short dresses and plunging necklines either! Sorryyyyyy......

Backs away slowly......

Anyway in the spirit of the thread, NO I would never organise anything. You will never please everyone, but those that are happy will carry on, while those who are not will bitch until Easter.

gamerwidow · 14/09/2017 18:46

It's utterly thankless and I've always avoided doing it. Go with the majority and give people clear deadlines for the deposits etc. If they don't pay they don't go.
And remember you will not be able to please everyone so ignore the moaners,

00100001 · 14/09/2017 18:55

Get them to pay by salary deduction.

Thats wat I do. Salary deducted in September. That means I have all the money needed to book everything.

If they change their mind the first response is "get someone to fill your space and get them to pay back"

Slimthistime · 14/09/2017 18:59

Dora "Would be far nicer if management just stuck 50 quid on your desk on the last day before Christmas, then everyone benefits, others can use the money on a party"

this. People who want to go out with their colleagues would then do just that!

AlexaAmbidextra · 14/09/2017 19:46

I don't mind doing ours, mainly because I tell them where we're going and the date and time then they can come or not, as they please. I give a cut off date for deposits, no pay, no come.

ForalltheSaints · 14/09/2017 19:59

It is. So glad someone else has offered this year having suggested the venue.

WinditupSlowitdown · 14/09/2017 20:56

Get them to pay by salary deduction.

It's a multi national company so I don't think they would give me access to payroll haha.

But yes I will be very strict in terms of deposit. Don't give it by a certain date then tough shit.

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Mightybanhammer · 15/09/2017 18:37

I have not been to one of these dos for over ten years. I don't care what people think. I loathe Christmas, hate parties and noise, and don't much like my colleagues. How I spend my money and my time outside work is a matter for meGrin

The thought of actually organising one and putting up with the awful attitudes fills me with horror!

Whisky2014 · 15/09/2017 18:40

Yeh I used to do it. Changed companies so now someone else is the usual person to organise it. Thank God!

2ducks2ducklings · 15/09/2017 18:53

Oh god, it's a bloody nightmare isn't it?
No one will agree on the venue, they definitely don't want to go to the same place we've been going to since the actual nativity. So you book somewhere new.
They won't respond to emails about choosing their food, they're late paying for it and people pull out at the last minute or decide they now want to come.
Despite everyone looking like they had a fab time, when you return to work after Christmas it's decided that you should have gone to the same place as last year.
I'm glad I'll be on maternity leave this year!

Lavenderfly · 15/09/2017 18:54

Yes I did it 2 years in a row. I refused last year, and there was no Xmas meal. I doubt there will be one this year

Chottie · 15/09/2017 19:01

Well, I work for a LA, so we pay for ourselves. 2 courses for £9.99 at the local Berni inn. Sorted :)

DH organises his office Christmas lunch. A 4 course lunch with pre lunch champagne reception and drinks at a top London restaurant overlooking the Thames at no charge to the 90 people attending. So many moans and groans... :(

Nettletheelf · 15/09/2017 19:35

I've arranged a few. Leant on by directors to arrange a do "to encourage team spirit".

I quite like socialising with colleagues and I'm good at organising, but Christ, Christmas dos are a nightmare! I think the type where people pay for themselves are the worst.

Yes to the people from different offices swearing blind they want to come and will 'settle up with you on the night' for the deposit then don't show. I resent having to chase them for the money afterwards, and it is always the highest paid people who think that their deposit doesn't matter and that they are too busy and important to transfer £20 to my account!

When it's booked you always get some awkward git, the day before, announcing that they are suddenly dairy or glucose intolerant etc., and will I just ring the venue and ask them to make a special dish for them? Or, ditto, demanding to be given assurance the day before that the kitchen is entirely nut free. If it's that important, why not bloody mention it when you signed up for the event, two months ago?

Yes to the whinging. I arranged one do with a buffet, one free drink per head and dancing. Free to the participants, the company having decided to put their hands in their pockets that year. You would not believe the whinging. One woman came over and demanded to know how much the event had cost. I caved in and told her for a quiet life. She said, "well, it feels cheap and I'll be checking how much money you've had out of [our employer]". As if I'd stolen some of the money! (She was later fired when the auditors discovered that she'd stealing from the company for years to put her son through private school.)

At bill payment time, I usually gently suggest that people add a bit of a tip. Loads don't. I usually end up doing the adding up (accountant), and loads of people come up to me with a handful of coins, including many coppers, saying, "my main course was £9.95, here it is, got to get back" then scarper. Neglecting to pay for their share of the sodding garlic bread, wine, etc. I end up adding £20 of my own money for a tip, because otherwise I'd be ashamed to face the poor restaurant staff!

BadLad · 16/09/2017 02:26

Ours is small and free for attendees, as well as always being at the same place. I'd hate to do some of the organising described on this thread.

CakeNinja · 16/09/2017 08:03

Chottie, that's painful!
Although lots of people don't really want to socialise with their colleagues, and I don't really think that's a fault of anyone's. Christmas is really busy for lots of people, a works do is another thing to squeeze in between kids school plays, friends catching up for nights out, visiting relatives etc, a works Christmas do is not always at the top of people's lists of things to do.
Having said that, I also pay for my own, it's usually a £50 a head dreadful mass catered meal at a huge venue, drinks/taxis on top - I always go but it's never my favourite way to spend over a hundred quid before Christmas! And dp is self employed, he pays for his employees to have a day out, activity/food/drink/transport all included Envy

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