To think this is a bit weird?

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Aibu to think that this is weird/strange?

A young couple in their early 20s. Dated for a year then split up. No children together, no mutual friends. Never lived together.

One half of the couple moved to another city, meets someone else and moves in with them. This person has had lots of different relationships but has started a new life, new job, new friends.

The other person still in the home city continues to regularly visit the exes parents. Even going round for drinks on Christmas Day. Gives Christmas and birthday presents to the exes parents and extended family. Then meets someone else and continues to spend Christmas Day with exes parents and their new partner, tags along to family occasions and parties with the exes parents.

People don't normally do this right? No children involved. What would you think to this?

Yeah odd unless they were friends with the parents beforehand?

My DH's exs mum did a reading at our wedding. No children. He considers the parents friends as do I now. We socialise with ex's sister but not ex. Would happily attend family do.

I'd be pissed off if I was either of the new partners.

Well, its not what usually happens, but if they get on and the parents are ok with it, then i don't think its weird.

I don't think it's necessarily weird. It's possible for couples to split up in a relatively civilised manner that allows them both to maintain a lot of their relationships with other friends and family. If all of the parties are happy and enjoying socialising together, I think it's really none of anyone else's business.

Yes it is a bit odd. YANBU

They clearly bonded with them as people rather than just in-laws.

I find it odder when people end a relationship and instantly give up on any friends created through that relationship.

I don't feel this is out of the ordinary tbh. I think if everyone is ok with it all then fine. When my ds and my bil divorced we (my parents and my then dh ) stayed close to him and his parents. . I was only 8 when they met and he was married to her for 21 yrs so I was very fond of him and his parents. I used to go there when I was growing up they didn't do anything except be very kind to me bless them . I still go for her birthday and for Christmas to see them both .

I did for quite a while until dh showed up. The best part of ex was his parents tbh. They were better than mine at the time.

If their dc is out of town, it is not a big deal is it?

Thank you for replies.

I thought it was a bit weird and perhaps there was an ulterior motive. Not something I've ever come across before.

The person didn't know the parents before and there are no mutual friends, it's literally just the ex going round to the parents. I could understand if there were shared hobbies but it's literally just the ex going to Xmas celebrations where there is only immediate family.

I guess everyone is different.

It's not standard, but not necessarily odd either. Do they have patents of their own? Sounds like they want a new/ additional family( older generation, not like " starting a family ").

I think it's odd after only a year relationship. What do the parents think? Do they invite the ex over or is he/she just turning up?

I'd be pissed off if I was either of the new partners.

I think they are probably fond of each other. that is why I still have a relationship with my ds inlaws and ex dh. I really like them and care about them.

perhaps they don't have any family themselves and the exs parents have taken her/him in as a surrogate or whatever.