to be so depressed it is my birthday and everything is so bad?

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lucky13thirteen · 13/09/2017 15:14

Really sorry! SUCH a miserable thread.

I'm 37 I used to have everything. Well, not everything, but one hell of a lot. Husband, home, career, family, friends.

It has all gone. None of it is my fault either, it's just been an arse load of circumstances. Husband cheated on me with a dear friend. Career went down the pan after I was falsely accused - name cleared after 11 long months but mud sticks. I've gained shitloads of weight too.

I'm trying to carve a life for myself. Not the old one but a new one. But GOD it's hard.

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GodIsDead · 13/09/2017 15:20

Oh dear, I'm sorry you are having such a rough time. I know it's hard to believe, but things will get better for you and this dark time will be a blurry, distant memory. Happy birthday

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lucky13thirteen · 13/09/2017 15:28

thanls :) I wish I was as confident!

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GodIsDead · 13/09/2017 15:39

Honestly it's crazy how quickly your life can change. 4 years ago I was very much where you are now and I just felt as though I was at the bottom of a very deep and dark hole. I couldn't see a way out and felt very negative about life. But things did get better, and not slowly either! Something good will happen soon and the rest will fall into place.

Kochicoo · 13/09/2017 15:44

Happy Birthday! I'm so sorry you feel so low. I know everyone will say it but it will get better. It really will. What horrible people your exdh and friend are. The circumstances they got together in probably won't make for a secure and trusting relationship. Have you got nice food/wine/treats for today? Allow yourself to feel bad today but maybe think of a plan for the coming months whether it's a gym or classes or a workout dvd and it is true that exercising makes you feel so much better. I started a spin class last week and I really was on a high all day afterwards. Screw your exdh and friend. They deserve each other. At only just 37, you've still got loads of time to get things back on track . . Loads! I really hope you feel better soon.

LuckyBitches · 13/09/2017 16:35

Happy birthday!

I'm sorry you've had such a shit time recently. But you could look at is as:

You are now freed of your shit husband
You are now freed of your shit friend
You are now freed of your shit job

It doesn't sound like you've lost that much really. Now you have room for better people in your life.

xxxxx

ConciseandNice · 13/09/2017 16:38

Wowzers I can't beat what LuckyBitches said. That's the truth.

Happy birthday!!

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