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to expect people to have MANNERS?????

26 replies

Y0rkshirelass · 04/04/2007 14:24

This morning I held a door open for two women carrying a lot of bags - they walked straight in ignoring me completely and carried on chatting to each other.

I answered an unanswered post on here and I was ignored - the poster even bumped it after my response.

Then later I was in a shop looking (very obviously) at something on a shelf when one youngish girl just stepped in between me & the shelf, and then gave me a dirty look when I said 'excuse me' and leaned over her to reach something.

Later, on my way back from town, I was standing still looking for something in my bag and some woman came towards me with her buggy and crashed her shopping bags against my leg and then stopped, adjusted her bags and then just walked off.

Why are people so * rude??

Am I just see-through today or something???

Grrrrrrr

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Medea · 04/04/2007 14:27

What a collection of rudeness. You must be fuming! Sorry to hear it. Yes people are like that sometimes, but rarely so many people in one day!

kittywaitsfornumber6 · 04/04/2007 14:27

I completely agree with you. Some people are selfish w*nkers, completely wrapped up in themselves.
If I say hold a door and someone doesn't say thankyou I usually say in a loud voice " Say thankyou" or I'll let the door swing shut again.

I haven't got any time for people without manners.

ScottishThistle · 04/04/2007 14:30

I'm another one who says rather loudly Thanks when somebody breezes in a door I'm holding open for them!...Manners cost nothing!

littleEasterlapin · 04/04/2007 14:31

I'm with you, people are SO rude. I get major buggy rage.

I find white van men are politer than other mums!

tokentotty · 04/04/2007 14:31

Glad I'm not alone in doing this. Always say "Oh you're welcome" rather loudly when it happens to me.

mytwocents · 04/04/2007 14:32

Sounds like a crap day! People often are very rude , alot dont notice they are - not excusing behaviour mind!
Your probably hypersensitive now as you've had a rough day, maybe try to avoid any more crowds and cheers yourself up with an ice cream/ cup of tea / wine ? moan?
Hope your day gets better x

Original poster
Y0rkshirelass · 04/04/2007 14:33

So glad it's not just me! I do usually shout 'You're welcome' after rudies but after the morning I had I kind of ran out of sarcastic steam!

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Original poster
Y0rkshirelass · 04/04/2007 14:33

excellent idea mytwocents

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Mrsshuvel · 04/04/2007 14:42

This often happens to me. I have a habit of asking people if i am invisable in a loud voice. They often slink away embarrassed. Good! Rude Bs!

grouchyoscar · 04/04/2007 14:48

Yesterday some bloke climbed over me while I was looking at something on a lower shelf in a shop. He was middle aged to elderly fps, you don't expect it from that age group.

A parent who collects her kids from DS's nursery shoved a huge plastic bag of easter eggs in my face while I was reading a book to DS in the vestibule. She's pretty rude and objectionable anyway but that was her worst yet.

Yesterday another parent (a bit of a no brain jane type) saw I was locked out of the nursery and knocking...and just walked off.

Simple manners seem to be absent in a lot of people today and it's a sad slight on our modern society. People comment that DS has lovely manners while others take the mickey when he says 'Please' 'thank you' and 'excuse me gentleman/lady' which makes me weep.

Original poster
Y0rkshirelass · 04/04/2007 14:52

Someone climbed over you??

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grouchyoscar · 04/04/2007 15:36

Yep, me looking at kids books at the bottom of the shop fitting with my bags and stick and he just reached over then moved his feet in! Rude beyond belief

kittywaitsfornumber6 · 04/04/2007 15:38

You should have sttod up whilst he was doing it

NoodleStroodle · 04/04/2007 15:40

Be heartened by the random acts of kindness by strangers thread by running too

grouchyoscar · 04/04/2007 15:42

would have done if I didn't need my stick for support!

friendlyedjit · 04/04/2007 15:43

"I cannot believe it" grouchyoscar!!!

I'd love to say I'm surprised but not really.
There are though lots of really nice friendly well mannered people out there though, and when you come across one, isn't it so cheery!

kittywaitsfornumber6 · 04/04/2007 15:43

You could have tripped him up

bran · 04/04/2007 15:45

I have invisible days now and then, people literally try to walk through me as though I'm not there. Since I've had ds I've been much more forgiving of other parents' rudeness, who knows how much sleep they've had recently, perhaps just putting one foot in front of the other is as much as they can manage.

Rudeness/invisibility does seem to happen all at once rather than isolated incidences, so I sometimes wonder whether it's me. Perhaps I have days when my body language is all wrong and others can't judge correctly what I'm likely to next leading to bumping/ignoring.

joanna4 · 04/04/2007 23:27

We had this today too only it was my dd who is 10 holding a door for some old people you know the ones who are the type to maon about the youth of today having no respect!

Hilllary · 05/04/2007 11:35

ooh I hate this and am always confronting rude people, we were in mothercare the other day and my dd1 (age3) was looking at clothes when an older boy pushed in front of her and started pulling the clothes of the shelves, my dd turned around to him and said "Dont You Dare Push Me, How Rude, Pick Them Up"!!!

I can honestly say, I think she gets it from me

Socci · 05/04/2007 11:53

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Mamalennon · 05/04/2007 12:07

We're all polite and we're teaching our children to have manners. It's a start ! Horrible for you to have so many instances in one day though.

sazzerbear · 10/04/2007 16:28

You poor thing, what a terrible day you had.
I am 2 weeks away from my due date and throughout my pregnancy have felt that I am almost invisible, it certainly does not get you any "special treatment" ie people holding doors open, moving out of the way etc. Manners cost nothing so why does everyone seem to be getting ruder and ruder?! I especially enjoy "tutting" in a "Grumpy old Woman" way as loudly as possible, it makes me feel slightly better without having to start being rude back (ie swearing!)

DominoDancer · 10/04/2007 16:33

Tell me about it! This is one of my biggest bug bears. Rude people. And there are a lot of them about.

Megglevache · 10/04/2007 16:38

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