To think the acupuncturist was a bit off?

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Last year I had a few acupuncture sessions and found them beneficial (despite being fully aware they could just be a big, expensive placebo).

I've had a few health issues recently and am not feeling too good about myself, so I booked a short course with the acupuncturist for a bit of a pick me up. It was the first session on Monday, we pretty much started from scratch again with the big chat about my medical history and issues I'm experiencing.

Then we got to the miscarriage I experienced in February. I was explaining how it threw me physically for a few months afterwards when the acupuncturist asked me 'What caused the miscarriage?'
'Errr, I don't know. Most are unexplained.'
'Well yes,but what do you THINK caused it?'
I then rambled on about being under stress at the time, more to appease her than anything else. Lots of sage nodding on her part and 'Oh yes, that would put the body under enormous stress'

Is SHE BU? It took me a long time to find peace with myself after this miscarriage, and convince myself that it wasn't my fault. I still feel that way but am angry at the implication that that it was caused by external factors within my control.

I am not 100% convinced on the medical efficacy of acupuncture btw but, as I said before, it's woo that relaxes me, so it does have its benefits.

Having her question you about such a traumatic event doesn't sound that relaxing tbh.

If you like the overall treatment, maybe consider a different practitioner; or be blunt and firm with her and tell he r she upset/offended you and please do not do it again.

She was U and pretty bloody insensitive to boot.

I'm v seriously thinking of cancelling our future sessions. But part of me thinks that particular chat is over now and I should just let it go.

Seems a very odd question indeed. Emotionally loaded. I think acupuncture is brilliant but i think this question is not really appropriate. Tell her!

I'm so sorry you lost your baby. Think of women who are under incredible stress, eg women from war torn countries, refugees etc who don't lose their babies - I don't think it's a good idea to think of stress in your life causing miscarriage. Perhaps you could speak to your doctor?

I've not been through a miscarriage but needed forceps for my child to be born. A woman (who I thought was a midwife, but was there just to wash me afterwards) told me that it was my fault for not pushing enough (three hours of pushing, ffs) "Could you not have tried a bit harder?" I had PND after the birth and can trace the start of it to that comment. I spoke to a doctor about it a few months later and was reassured.

Could you speak to your doctor about the cause of your miscarriage and ask for reassurance that it wasn't caused by you?

I'm pretty certain in myself that I didn't cause my miscarriage, though it has taken me a while to get to that stage. I'm more annoyed with the acupuncturist for being so insensitive!

Cancel her and find someone else. Or tell her you found it inappropriate and make your decision based on her response. Miscarriage isn't your fault. Never blame yourself.

Sorry, I misunderstood. There are other acupuncturists out there - if you don't feel comfortable with this one, you're better off finding someone else.

Grossly insensitive on her part. These things just happen. Nothing particularly 'causes' it. How very hurtful of her to suggest otherwise.

There is a good article in the guardian about acupuncture being more than a placebo.