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Letstryagainshallwe · 12/09/2017 21:43

Sorry posting for traffic. My son starts nursery on Thursday. I was told he is to attend 5 days a week. Seems a lot. I thought it was only 2/3 days a week. Is this a lot? He is 3 and a half. Also if I wanted to keep him off for the day would it only be allowed for illness? (like with school)

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Subtlecheese · 12/09/2017 21:47

Attendance isn't compulsory but the more formal environments will expect an explanation about absence.

Subtlecheese · 12/09/2017 21:47

But they can't fine you etc

PlumFairy2014 · 12/09/2017 21:48

Nobody can make you take your child to nursery.
Do you mean he is getting 5 days funded? Do you and your partner both work over 16 hours?

Letstryagainshallwe · 12/09/2017 21:48

It's a nursery attached to a school.

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NapQueen · 12/09/2017 21:49

Is he there ft?

PlumFairy2014 · 12/09/2017 21:49

I don't understand who is making you have him there 5 days rather than your preferred 2/3 days.

Letstryagainshallwe · 12/09/2017 21:50

I asked how many days a week he would go (all new to me so wasn't sure) and she said 5 which I wasn't expecting. So just wondered if that was a lot as didn't realise it would be every day.

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ElleDubloo · 12/09/2017 21:51

Do they expect you to pay for 5 days? They should have made that clear when you signed up.

MrTrebus · 12/09/2017 21:51

And massive drip feed in 5,4,3,2,1.....

I am guessing your ex has organised nursery?

Letstryagainshallwe · 12/09/2017 21:51

I just asked how often they attend and she said 5 days a week Monday-Friday.

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user1471459936 · 12/09/2017 21:52

Eh? The nursery don't tell you how many days, you tell them Confused

SellFridges · 12/09/2017 21:53

Is it a school nursery?

drspouse · 12/09/2017 21:53

Does "they" mean "children in general"?

HCantThinkOfAUsername · 12/09/2017 21:53

That's the norm here in Wales. 5x mornings or afternoons until they are 4 and then full time. It's not compulsory but they suggest full attendance like a school.
Ds fell under target with attendance and was sent letters and had to attend meetings.

PlumFairy2014 · 12/09/2017 21:53

Perhaps the nursery worker meant they operate 5 days a week?! Surely?

dementedpixie · 12/09/2017 21:53

My two did 5 x mornings when they went to nursery. Pretty standard here to do 5 mornings or afternoons

Letstryagainshallwe · 12/09/2017 21:53

I am single and not working. Ex isn't involved. Not sure what the drip feed is? I'm asking how often kids go to nursery as I wanted him to go maybe 2/3 times a week but when I asked how often she said 5 days a week Monday-Friday she didn't say however often you want or whatever so got the impression he had to attend everyday. Unless ill.

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NapQueen · 12/09/2017 21:54

But have they told you the start and end times?

I honestly dont know how you can not know this stuff. Didnt they give you any info? Could you not have clarified things further when they said itto you.

PlumFairy2014 · 12/09/2017 21:54

Are you in Wales OP?

dementedpixie · 12/09/2017 21:56

At our local nurseries that offer the funded hours they tend to offer 5x mornings or afternoons.

MrsPringles · 12/09/2017 21:56

My just turned 3 year old is starting school nursery next week, 5 mornings a week. He has a uniform and they expect his attendance to stay above a certain percentage.

Pretty standard at 3 I think

Jellycatspyjamas · 12/09/2017 21:56

If you're in Scotland the norm for a nursery attached to a school would be 5 half days per week. I don't think it's compulsory but you'd be expected to explain absences.

BendingSpoons · 12/09/2017 21:57

All 3 year olds get 15 funded hours in England (not sure about elsewhere) so yes it's usual for children to go 5 days for 3 hours or 2/3 longer days. You don't have to send him but they will want reasonable attendance to justify his place/funding.

PlumFairy2014 · 12/09/2017 21:57

If it's funded I understand they will have spaces certain times, but it isn't compulsory to use the funding.

Letstryagainshallwe · 12/09/2017 21:58

I didn't know if it was normal or not, first time sending. Not in wales no. It's 12.45 to 3.45 but even then I was told by the receptionist I could collect him sooner as school for my other finishes at 3.25 but when the lady came round my house and I said it to her she said no.

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