Aibu to think ds comp should communicate with parents

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Ds was lucky to have been selected for the 1st team school football team.

No letters home about trials, just the kids attended school on and were told trials where that night (this has been confirmed by school) cue alot of parents wondering where there children were.

Ds told me he had a football game today, I knew it was after school, as he had been told by his teacher to bring his kit in, however its now 18:19pm, and ds still not home, I have parents calling/texting me and asking if I know whats happening.

Ds has a mobile however its not switched on, as per the schoo, Ive tried calling the school and no answer, I dont even know if the game is home or away, and also we haven't filled in permission forms for them going on school transportation, however dont know if this is just a primary school issue.

AIBU to think the school needs to communicate with the parents, or do they expect 11 year olds to tell us?, however even they dont know

Sorry about errors, I've had to use my phone, as my chrome crashed (again) and I couldn't go over my post.

Age 11? Yanbu at all. I'd be making an appointment with the head asap.

Surely you should have needed to sign a form off for insurance purposes, any illnesses/disabilities etc...

I had one sent home the other day for a trip and my son is 15.

My ds's school is the same. Parents are told nothing about fixtures or travel arrangements. The school has a very strict mobile phone policy as well so the kids can't phone their parents to let them know when they've arrived back at school. Ds absolutely refuses to let me say something.

Yes, everybody makes mistakes. The school has made mistakes here. Tell them about it ... and, perhaps, tell them you won't judge them on their mistakes ('everybody makes mistakes', after all), but on how they put matters right.

In future, they should let parents know what's going on with their children. So much is obvious. If they get too defensive about it, just point this out to them.

No communication at all, my friends just text and ds has just arrived at hers, with her ds (they walk home together) ds will be home in 5 mins.

However at 6.35pm!!!! I knew he was OK as all other football children haven't returned home, but still!!!

It's certainly what dd's secondary do. There is many a time I've been a bit at the things they don't communicate to us parents. They really do expect the children to pass it on properly which in dd's case never happens.
To be fair to the school they do place a lot of trust in them in other ways and it usually works well but it is a huge leap in responsibility from primary where I got three copies of every letter because I had 3 dc in school to leaving it all to them to tell us.

My ds's school is the same. Parents are told nothing about fixtures or travel arrangements. The school has a very strict mobile phone policy as well so the kids can't phone their parents to let them know when they've arrived back at school. Ds absolutely refuses to let me say something.

There was never any communication with our parents about fixtures and this was pre-mobile phones! Often I would be asked to play for a different year group or sport at the last moment and then the PE teacher would let me use the phone in her office to call home.

Shame it doesn't seem any better now.

Your child landing in 3 hours or whatever after school is over isn't OK. Should definitely say something and I'm not one to complain at all.

It is secondary school. They expect the kids to be more independent and communicate with them direct. They expect your child to let you know the things thry tell them. Usually details of sports fixtures are also on school websites or Twitter

our school has always expected the students to let the parents know about fixtures, we do not get letters home

The is a very good website called our kids sports,you select the name of your school and it gives you a calendar of all the fixtures including KO time and venue

Our school also posts the fixtures on twitter

Football fixtures and the like, I think this is ds1 responsibility, he needs to communicate his tonus, probs won't find out

However I do think the school should be telling us when to expect our children home.

Ds just said the teacher was in meetings, so they all played on the trampolines until he was ready, hence why they are late.

It's fairly standard for extra curriculars to go through the child.

Our notices for auditions/trials get read out a few times a week to students with 1-2 weeks notice. It's up to them to tell home what they are interested in.

Some mornings I have 15/20 notices. We dont do letters for them. Students have planners to record what they need to know.

Sometimes the kids aren't properly informed either and sometimes things aren't particularly well organised. Last year ds had a rugby match in a town about 15 miles away. He wasn't told which school so it was difficult to estimate travel times. Ds is pretty on top of things so I know he hadn't forgotten. When they got to the school (which was on the furthest side of this town) the host school was struggling to get a team together, so they started late. Of course the parents weren't informed of this. Lots of parents arrived at school at 6 as they'd guessed this was the most likely arrival time. We all sat in our cars til 6.45 when the bus rocked up. Most of the boys had rugby training for their club that evening (which is why most of us were waiting to give lifts)
and missed it as a result. A bit of communication from the school would have prevented us all sitting for 45 minutes bored and we'd have been able to inform their club coaches that they'd miss training.