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AIBU?

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Original poster

To think the postman is being a twat.

24 replies

Confused95 · 12/09/2017 17:51

I dont think ibu but also wondering wwyd. Today after collecting ds from nursery at 12 me ds and dd all got soaked in the rain so I decided to just change dc into comfy clothes but decided to throw my pjs on. About 1 the postman knocked and when i answered he looked me up and down and in a very cheeky way said it must be nice to be able to lounge about all day and left. Im very tempted to report him for this and a few other thing (leaves parcels with neighbours but never leaves a note or if something needs signed for he signs my name). I should ad its that time of the month and iv not had a good nights sleep for a few days so im extra moody

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HaudYerWheeshtBawbag · 12/09/2017 17:52

I just couldn't even get worked up about this, I'd have responded to him there and then.

DingDongDenny · 12/09/2017 17:52

Yes it was a bit cheeky, but for god sake don't report him. Way OTT

WorraLiberty · 12/09/2017 17:54

Being on a period is not an excuse for being nasty.

If you took offence to what he said, you should have pulled him there and then.

Same with the delivery issues. Just speak to the man.

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 12/09/2017 17:54

YANBU. I hate CP's (Comment passers). I never get the lounge around statement. How does he know you don't work nights.

FallingOrbit · 12/09/2017 17:55

It's something that can be taken two different ways, for sure. He might be knackered and be genuinely envious of your perceived lounging around all day. Or he could be a dick. But either way I think reporting him is probably a bit much.

Clandestino · 12/09/2017 17:58

I would probably make it my business to have my morning gown on every time he comes over and get myself one of those thin cigars with a long holder. Also, few open fashion magazines in the hall.

MrsJamesAspey · 12/09/2017 18:01

Please don't report him, years ago a colleagues husband who was a postie had a disciplinary and nearly lost his job over a complaint from someone. My colleague went through hell for 6 weeks with the worry, I think it was just before her dd was getting married too so the last thing they needed.

FenceSitter01 · 12/09/2017 18:04

What is it with people who want to report for every little joke, every perceived insult, every, blink? Pathetic.

WorraLiberty · 12/09/2017 18:13

Indeed FenceSitter and even more pathetic when they won't say anything to the person's face, to give them a chance to apologise/put something right.

TheUpsideDown · 12/09/2017 18:22

I've had this comment before from the poster.... I worked 12hr nightshifts and had just completed a 72hr working week on said night shifts.

He picked the wroooong time to be a dick. He got his are handed to him. He did apologise though and we actually became quite friendly in the end.

Don't report him, just tell him straight if he does it again.

TheUpsideDown · 12/09/2017 18:23

*postie (not poster)

TheUpsideDown · 12/09/2017 18:24

*arse (not are!)

BeepBeepMOVE · 12/09/2017 18:24

Get a life!

Seriously you are obsessing that much over a small comment made by someone you don't know?

By all means complain about him not leaving the "I've missed you" card and signing your name-outrageous- but you will sound like such a bored, no friends SAHM to make a formal complaint about a tiny comment.

It was probably just a joke- you were in PJs at 1pm!

InfiniteSheldon · 12/09/2017 18:26

Either call him on it, ignore it or take it in the genial friendly spirit it was meant. Reporting him makes you an utter twat

Seeyamonday · 12/09/2017 18:28

Don't report him, it was a throwaway comment and you've said that PMT is approaching, as for not telling you deliveries have arrived I agree that's a bit off, maybe he thinks he's doing you a favour when he signs for your parcels, mine does this too and I'm grateful because it saves me a trip to the sorting office to collect.

Glumglowworm · 12/09/2017 18:32

YABU

it was a throwaway comment. If it bothers you so much then you should've said something to him at the time. If you complain you will be being incredibly petty

mumonashoestring · 12/09/2017 18:34

Cripes.

If it wound you up that much, next time you see him give him a big cheery grin and drop in some comment about how nice it must be to just wander around all day, not a care in the world... Grin

Ttbb · 12/09/2017 18:39

Not sure the comment is report worthy but the parcel issues definitely are.

WhatInTheWorldIsGoingOn · 12/09/2017 18:42

Get.A.Grip.

Either say at the time, 'oi you cheeky bastard wind your neck in.' Or choose to say nothing and move on with your life.

Nomorechickens · 12/09/2017 18:42

I would be more worried about the parcels. But if you fall out with him, he won't leave your parcels with the neighbour any more, he'll take them back to the sorting office for you to collect

DailyMailReadersAreThick · 12/09/2017 18:46

I'm surprised at the general tone of the replies because I think it was a really rude thing to say. I agree that a complaint is probably too much, but I don't agree it was a "friendly" thing to say Hmm

Serialweightwatcher · 12/09/2017 18:52

Maybe he was just trying to be funny in his own way - just think everyone gets so easily offended. Even if he had meant it, so what, does it matter what anyone else thinks? As for reporting him - it's his job and he will probably need it, so that would be a very mean thing to do considering it was a silly remark that you've taken to heart

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Confused95 · 12/09/2017 18:57

I will just let the comment go this time but im going to have a word about signing for my parcels and and will be saying if hes going to leave my parcels with neighbours he needs to leave me a note. Thanks

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expatinscotland · 12/09/2017 19:03

YABU, but I'd say something to him about the parcels.

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