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Original poster

aibu to think this is bad for my dc's school to put this in their newsletter?

114 replies

whatmatenamechange · 12/09/2017 02:33

it was all lovely until the end bit, not numbers and letters! that's their grades they're talking about!!! and the head wrote that.

aibu?

aibu to think this is bad for my dc's school to put this in their newsletter?
OP posts:
BusyBeez99 · 12/09/2017 02:36

What a lovely message - nice to see a head not pushing league tables

hairymaryquitecontrary · 12/09/2017 02:37

What actually is your problem with it?

silverbell64 · 12/09/2017 02:39

No idea what your problem is either?

HelenaDove · 12/09/2017 02:40

i think thats lovely. Especially after some of the head teachers ive been reading about in the news lately.

Original poster
whatmatenamechange · 12/09/2017 02:40

no it is lovely but to say that their grades don't matter is a bit Confused to me.

OP posts:
hairymaryquitecontrary · 12/09/2017 02:43

Are they 7 or 17? If the former, or anyway close to it, their grades don't matter.

Cavender · 12/09/2017 02:43

He didn't say grades don't matter. He said it was more important to be working hard and doing your best.

WhataHexIgotinto · 12/09/2017 03:35

Oh. You're one of those parents ...

elfinpre · 12/09/2017 03:41

For a minute I read it that the children's "numbers" were published in the newsletter and that was the OP's understandable complaint.

But what the head actually wrote is more or less what I say to my daughters, that to me the effort score is more important than the attainment. You can't do more than your best.

Sirzy · 12/09/2017 03:53

So basically he is saying the important thing is to try your best. What's wrong with that?

missperegrinespeculiar · 12/09/2017 04:13

I wish grades were done away with... YABU

LilyMcClellan · 12/09/2017 04:31

Clearly some kind of hippy who believes compassion, hard work and pleasure in learning are more important than competitiveness and conformity to norms that by definition can't apply to everyone.

EssentialHummus · 12/09/2017 05:01

Where is this school, because if you're anywhere near south London it's going on my admissions application in a few years.

Ninabean17 · 12/09/2017 05:06

I think that's a great thing to say.

SilverForest · 12/09/2017 05:06

Sounds spot on Smile

blueberrypie0112 · 12/09/2017 05:09

The only thing that stood out is the "below" and "above

aibu to think this is bad for my dc's school to put this in their newsletter?
MerryMarigold · 12/09/2017 05:11

How wonderful. I thoroughly agree with him. And he's probably thing to drum it in to THOSE parents who think that school is only or mainly about numbers and letters and being on the top table.

Gorgosparta · 12/09/2017 06:01

I totally agree with him. Dont see an issue.

LefDeppard · 12/09/2017 06:12

Struggling to see what the problem with that is, sounds spot on to me.

Sparklingbrook · 12/09/2017 06:32

Sounds fine to me.

OuaisMaisBon · 12/09/2017 06:34

YABU. HTH.

Groovee · 12/09/2017 06:34

Sounds like they've had parents moaning about composite classes and this is their response which sounds fine to me.

ChasedByBees · 12/09/2017 06:41

Some children, regardless of how hard they try, will not be able to achieve the standard norm for their age group. Should they be made to feel useless for this?

BlackeyedSusan · 12/09/2017 06:42

sounds great to me.

somewhereovertherain · 12/09/2017 06:44

Yabu - sounds fine to me as grades shouldn't matter but doing your best and sats are pointless.

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