To think a 'relationship' between a 12yo and 8yo is weird?

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My 12yo DD's classmate is 'going out with' an 8yo. The mother of the 12yo was laughing about it with a couple of other parents this morning and said they'd been inseparable over the holidays and created dens in which to kiss. They talked about this like it is just harmless children having fun. Now for me, if that was two 8 yos then yes it would be sweet and cute, but a 12yo??? They will be 13 this school year... I just think it is wrong. What do you think?

Ring social services please.

Write a note
I've over heard x in thenplaygoeund and I'm concerned about Y welfare

Perhaps you could look into the situation

Leave the note at reception

You can report to childline anonymously as well

You won't be told anything

So won't make a difference if you're named or not

Please don't write a note
The social workers will need to speak to you to clarify what happened. A note is useless.

A colleague of mine mentioned a boy buying her daughter flowers and proclaiming his love at the age of 10/11

It's pretty normal for kids to have little crushes on each other and say they 'love' each other at that age. If they're both the same age and are not having a physical relationship beyond holding hands, it's not really a worry. At that age, they're really just playing.

It is, however, a worry when a 12-year-old girl has an 8-year-old boyfriend and they are kissing. That's massively inappropriate.

Also, it really doesn't make any difference whether the girl or the boy is the older one. It's nowhere near as uncommon as you might think for older girls to abuse little boys.

Please please please phone social services.
This isn't right and both of these kids sound like they need protecting. The poor boy from the 12 year old and the 12 year old from whatever has caused her to act like this or think this is OK.

The school will take it seriously and ask the child questions or ring the authorities to interview the child

you heard hearsay - they will check the facts

Nope nope nope.

I'd be concerned the older one has clearly selected the younger, more malleable one, as a child their own age would not really be interested. And I'd want to know why the 12 year old was doing this.

When I was a kid people tutted and wrote sexually precocious kids off.

Now it's more common knowledge that there's usually something awry going on behind the scenes, even if it's just her spending too much time on her phone thinking she has to be the next Katie Price.