To go on hols without dp?

[Wanderlust1984]

A while ago I got invited by some ex colleagues to go abroad for a long weekend for a birthday. There are around 20 of us going. I just said yes at the time and paid up. DP is the type to not say when he's annoyed about something, but he will sulk and act out in other ways, nothing too bad though. It's only a few weeks until I'm due to go, I'm starting to pick up on sulks and think it could be this! WIU to agree to go? He's never had any issues with me going away with the girls, but there will be men and women on this trip - however I'll be sharing a room with two other ladies. Thoughts please?

How long have you been with DP? If it's not long then YANBU, but if you've been together quite a while and do a lot of things together with your friends and there are other couples going, I can understand why he might feel a bit left out.

However, not all couples have the kind of relationship where they even want to join their DP on a holiday with DPs friends... xx

YANBU at all.

Have fun 🍸

We've been together 3 years. I've just talked to him about it and he appears to be fine with it... we'll see if he spits the dummy out last minute 😂

Did you mention it to him before you agreed?

Do you live together? Have shared finances?

No I didn't mention it tbh, we both go away without each other quite a lot so I didn't give it a thought. We live together but finances are separate.

I would be upset that you didn't think to talk to me first about it - especially if he could've had plans for you both.
I don't think you're U to go, but I do think you're a bit U to have not mentioned it.
He should've said about it when you told him though and spoken to you properly about it, rather than sulking now though. That would be very out of order