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To think I was trying to help today at work rather then being unprofessional

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Partypolitics99 · 11/09/2017 18:59

My husband and I both work in the same place but on different projects. Both projects are very small and really suffer if someone is off sick. The sickness rate for the other staff on the projects is quite high.
We both took this morning as annual leave as we have been away at the weekend for a wedding. The wedding was yesterday so we took this morning as annual leave so we could set off back, drop DS in school and then get into work for 12.30.
All planned in advance with work and school and all good.
In the car on the way home my DS throws up a lot. I check his temp and it is high so not just travel sickness and we come to the conclusion he can't go into school. One set of grandparents are abroad and he other is staying at the wedding town to spend some more time with relatives. So this means either DH or I can't go into work.

So I ring my boss and explain and I ask if any of the projects are short of cover and which one of us would be best coming in- me or my husband.
My boss says it is our decision so I say fine I will come in and DH will stay at home.

When I get to work my boss goes mad at me calling me unprofessional for asking her and as our manager I should not have put her in that position.
I explained that from our point of view either of us could have come in, we both work the same hours and do the same days just on different projects so before making the decision we just wanted to check if either of the projects was down on staff. (Just for information we have never been off with DS before when he has been ill)
She said i need to thick before I act and I said I was thinking. She called me insolent and to never do anything like this again.

Also when she did this it was in front of 5 other members of staff, 2 of whom are new and I have never met before as they they started today.
So did I do wrong?

OP posts:
BathTangle · 11/09/2017 22:12

Oh OP - I hope he's OK!

pigletpie29 · 11/09/2017 22:13

You were just thinking about the best interests of the company. Your boss is unhinged.

pigletpie29 · 11/09/2017 22:15

Just seen update - sure he'll be ok, take care.

mumtri · 11/09/2017 22:17

Thoughts with you x x

Chilver · 11/09/2017 22:27

Hope your little boy is ok x

Ceto · 11/09/2017 22:32

I'll go against the grain and say - as a manager : you figure it out, have a convo with your husband and decide yourselves who has most going on. Don't put your domestic issues on me, esp as it only half a day and not a big thing.

But OP and her husband didn't have one vital piece of information to enable them to figure it out, namely whether anyone was off today. So it was totally reasonable to ask. And really how difficult could it have been for her to answer that simple question?

OP, I hope your son's OK.

whirlygirly · 11/09/2017 22:52

She was wholly unprofessional, not you.

Hope your ds is ok. Flowers

innagazing · 12/09/2017 01:21

I think your actions were very considerate.
I can't believe he used the word insolent! That's like telling a mouthy kid to stop back chatting you.
I'd be inclined to talk to HR about it with a view to getting it logged or possibly using the grievance procedure.

Partypolitics99 · 12/09/2017 01:44

He is ok. They are keeping him in overnight and I am with him just to monitor him but it's not anything really nasty.

DH is ringing work in the morning to say I won't be in and he will be coming out when we need picking up

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LindyHemming · 12/09/2017 06:53

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ZigZagIntoTheBlue · 12/09/2017 07:24

Hope your ds is better opFlowers

Partypolitics99 · 12/09/2017 07:25

No this is the first time ever

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queenofeverywhere · 12/09/2017 07:33

Maybe have s quiet word with her. It sounds like she may have had some other things going on and your reasonable approach to a difficult situation was the 'straw that broke the camel's back'. You might even get an apology Smile

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