Family getting involved

[Poppin12]

Me and my bf of 3 and half years very nearly split up on Saturday night because of a family member getting involved and voicing his opinion on our relationship.
Me and my man don't live together and has been looking for a job near where I live so that he can move in with me and move our relationship on. For now we have both decided that whilst he is still looking there is no real urgency for this to happen and are happy with the way things are. On Saturday my bf went out with a family member for a drink where the family member decided to voice his opinion on us. Basically saying that my bf is using me for one thing and he needs to make a decision and not lead me on any more, which I don't think he is. His friend also told him to F off back to where he came from. When I picked him up from which I thought would have been a nice evening out with the lads my bf was literally in pieces (he has been going through other things lately and think this was just the last straw). I was so angry with the family member thinking he has a right to tell us about our relationship when he was completely wrong. My bf told me that if he gets more threats/grief again from my family members (he has been told before that if he hurts me they will kill him) he will end it, and I don't blame him! We shouldn't have to put up with the rubbish. Iv sworn not to let family members know about what is happening in our relationship anymore so they have nothing to form an opinion on. If they ask how we are I will just say 'fine'. I understand that the family member was sticking up for me and my bf even tried to stick up for him by saying that he only said things because he was drunk and that he cares about me! I get that! I am just so afraid of loosing my bf because of overprotective family members. I would have my bf's back every time. He has never hurt me in any way and are so happy with each other, I am just so angry at my family member for saying what he did. I haven't said anything to the f member yet as iv been too angry and have told my bf that I wouldn't say anything. Advice please?

His friend also told him to F off back to where he came from.

I'm confused - did your family members friend say this to your BF?

Were they being racist to your BF? Have they been this 'protective' with other boyfriends you've had?

Hi, my family members friend who was with him at the time said F off. My bf lives an hour away from me so they weren't being racist just telling him to go back to the town he came from as a threat I suppose.

My family are protective but not to the point of being like this! I think with him it was because it's been 3 and a half years and he finds it strange that we have been living apart that long. Where my and my bf don't have an issue with it

What is he doing going drinking with people who have threatened to kill him before fuck sake?

With all due respect your BF may be better without you!

Well clearly you have a Family Member Problem.
Politely remind family member(s) this is absolutely none of their business and to please keep their opinions to themselves.

You need to tell your family member that if they ever interfere in your life or relationship that you will cut them from your life.
Also tell them that panty threats to kill your bf will be reported.
You're a grown woman and should not allow your family to interfere.
Families that are so 'protective' are usually a pain in the arse. I wouldn't blame your bf if he called it a day. Who needs this crap?

Any, not panty....

Your family member could well end your relationship. They have no right to threaten anyone you're with. I would warn them that if they so much as speak out of turn you won't speak to them again.