Is this a bit .. well .. rude.?

[GirlOnATrainToShite]

Invited quite a few colleagues to my wedding (after a lot of umming and awwing about it as we are a small team).

Invited partners too.

Colleague told me the other day that her partner has been moaning to her about it asking if he really has to come and she has told him he has to as she had to go to some boring reception he was invited to

AIBU to think that if you are going to moan about it I am not the appropriate person to moan to?

Is there a chance she was joking? It sounds like a joke comment....

I think you should ask her and also let her know that she shouldn't force her DP to attend as you dont want people there unless they are there for the right reasons.

Hope you have a wonderful day 💐

I think £100 gift from 10 colleagues is really stingy too. I'd be a bit 'suprised' too.

No she wasn't joking - she has form for being a bit rude and selfish but underneath it all she is quite a sweet person.

I was a bit hurt though that she wouldn't realise that I am not the person to tell this to - even for her!

Thank you

I took my husband to a colleagues wedding and it was hard work - I only knew the bride and he knew no-one. I was heavily pregnant and couldn't drink and there was no dancing. I went to another evening do with loads of colleagues and it was rowdy and fun - so sort of depends on which direction your heading. Excuse him for attending and allocate his place to someone who wants to go

I would prefer him not to attend really yes I only invited him to be nice!

I'd just tell her that you no longer feel comfortable with either of them attending your wedding any longer.

Just say something like 'phew what a relief, I didn't want any dickheads at my wedding-there's a pub over the road-he will like it there'

And smile.

Tell hums to shit or get off the pot, you have way more things to organise.

Him*

Say to rude colleague tomorrow 'I've been thinking about what you said and perhaps it would be better if you and your DP didn't come as he's not keen?'
Then if she reacts with appropriate embarrassment or seems genuinely upset you can say that she could maybe come without him. If she still wants to come and bring him along she will be damn sure that he behaves with due grace and manners.